Melancholia
Eternal daydreamer
I don't really know how to start this...i won't give the "get over it: type of advices,cause i know in such cases they don't work at all....
it's quite probable if not certain that you will fall in love again in the future and even maybe something better than what you have (it has been proved 2 times right in my case-even though i was laughing at people mentioning such stuff when i was "recovering" )...but well the point now is to focus on your pain....
mourn,cry and experience all the sadness you live in...just be careful not to do extreme things...just leave the sorrow slowly come out of you...in a couple of it you will feel more calm and will be able to see things in a more clear way.....
ok,these sound absurd,obscure etc etc,but i think that when somebody feels shit there is no point to try get over things immediately cause it will never work...i think it's better to mourn a bit over the "loss" .....by this way you will be able to "bury the lost one" and start sth new...
daaaaaamn i can't really explain this but it works in my case....
quite recently i took the hard decision to leave sth i had and loved yet realised it caused me much more pain than pleasure or happiness (and that;s one of the reasons i took that decision).... i felt totally awful and really had a hard time....so i left myself cry and shut my ears to all the people saying i have plenty of life to love and find someone really special...
and after a couple of days my mind was more clear...
well ok I know it wasn't the same case....
but i guess a bit of letting your feelings come out will make you feel better in the end....just be careful not to hurt yourself (physically) in any way...
I wish you all the best.....and even luck...cause it also helps in some cases....
and something stupid and maybe cliché....there is a greek proverb which could be translated into sth like "every obstacle leads to sth better"....i know it's no use saying that now,but i hope that after a long time it will have worked your case like it has done in my life...
Trapped@ this love and lost thing...i've discussed this with some people recently... and hmm i agree with Oyo.....Love definitely fills one with ecstatic feelings,definitely worth experiencing......as for the loss of love,even though it can cause the greatest pain ever...it also gives experiences,some kind of knowledge let's say....
i think it's some kind of personal decision one has to take...i've both loved and lost...and it wasn't nice.....but still i believe in this....i want to have love.... and when i start a new relationship i tend to give it all (and i am quite super selective,that's why when i found someone i consider him somehow very special and that's why i feel it's worth giving it all)....i know i maybe get hurt in the end....but for me it's definitely worth living love to the full....
it's quite probable if not certain that you will fall in love again in the future and even maybe something better than what you have (it has been proved 2 times right in my case-even though i was laughing at people mentioning such stuff when i was "recovering" )...but well the point now is to focus on your pain....
mourn,cry and experience all the sadness you live in...just be careful not to do extreme things...just leave the sorrow slowly come out of you...in a couple of it you will feel more calm and will be able to see things in a more clear way.....
ok,these sound absurd,obscure etc etc,but i think that when somebody feels shit there is no point to try get over things immediately cause it will never work...i think it's better to mourn a bit over the "loss" .....by this way you will be able to "bury the lost one" and start sth new...
daaaaaamn i can't really explain this but it works in my case....
quite recently i took the hard decision to leave sth i had and loved yet realised it caused me much more pain than pleasure or happiness (and that;s one of the reasons i took that decision).... i felt totally awful and really had a hard time....so i left myself cry and shut my ears to all the people saying i have plenty of life to love and find someone really special...
and after a couple of days my mind was more clear...
well ok I know it wasn't the same case....
but i guess a bit of letting your feelings come out will make you feel better in the end....just be careful not to hurt yourself (physically) in any way...
I wish you all the best.....and even luck...cause it also helps in some cases....
and something stupid and maybe cliché....there is a greek proverb which could be translated into sth like "every obstacle leads to sth better"....i know it's no use saying that now,but i hope that after a long time it will have worked your case like it has done in my life...
Trapped@ this love and lost thing...i've discussed this with some people recently... and hmm i agree with Oyo.....Love definitely fills one with ecstatic feelings,definitely worth experiencing......as for the loss of love,even though it can cause the greatest pain ever...it also gives experiences,some kind of knowledge let's say....
i think it's some kind of personal decision one has to take...i've both loved and lost...and it wasn't nice.....but still i believe in this....i want to have love.... and when i start a new relationship i tend to give it all (and i am quite super selective,that's why when i found someone i consider him somehow very special and that's why i feel it's worth giving it all)....i know i maybe get hurt in the end....but for me it's definitely worth living love to the full....