Males and Females

[Draehl]

I suppose it just has to do with what you look for in between the genders, but I always get along with just exceedingly nice women who are easy to talk to about random/generic shit. Not to make a blanket statement about women, but their eyes tend to glaze over whenever I go into any particular depth on (admittedly niche) topics, so I'm happy to keep it generic. With dudes its always the exact opposite, unless they have an axe to grind they're just boring. IE at work I've got "the football guy", "the politics guy", "the gamer guy" that make for interesting conversation you typically can't have with anyone else but for their lack of understanding. It's fine to just let them rant on their particular subject matter even if I don't know a whole lot on the topic (IE football) its nice having some insight. Women are just more enjoyable to have a conversation with (good looking or not) while guys its more about particular information I learn from the conversation, but maybe not so much is the conversation itself enjoyable.

/shrug

 

[Matt]

^ I have one male friend who I have great convo with, but generally I'll agree that women are far superior at that.

 

[waif]

So I've got a girlfriend now, I guess. She's pretty cool. True story.

 

[Onder]

So I've got a girlfriend now, I guess. She's pretty cool. True story.

It's not bad right? I had an alright sex today. I also have someone to have beers with on sunday.

 

[Onder]

Sometimes you see a pretty chick though and you think you'd really like to get to know her, and there's no point anyway. I have some classes with some french chick and she had a presentation and I just stared at her beauty for the entire time. Didn't even listen to what she was saying. Just her french accent. Dangerous lady.

 

[Nephilim96]

It's always good to plant some seeds.

 

[waif]

It's not bad right? I had an alright sex today. I also have someone to have beers with on sunday.

Not bad at all. And once I go back up to Montreal in January I'm cleared to have a side piece, so that's good.

 

[unknown]

wow. That's impressive.

 

[waif]

I dunno, I feel like non-monogamous relationships are really common among people my age. I already plowed a skank from Fetlife with her blessing while she was out of town so it's good to know I don't have to worry about this being a trap or something.

 

[The Ozzman]

Are there decent looking women on Fetlife?

 

[waif]

Yes, but it's not a meat market. It helps if you know what you want. I've gotten laid twice off Fetlife with minimal effort (and had interest from a couple more), but I'm fairly attractive and posted pictures with my face. Also, location makes a big difference, I imagine.

 

[The Ozzman]

I imagine it's probably thin in my area because this area mostly sucks.

Although, I bet there are lots of closet freaks in this city.

 

[waif]

Just to be clear, this is for people into fetish stuff. If you're just looking to have normal sex, you're pretty much gonna have to let someone spank you first or something.

 

[The Ozzman]

ANGTFT

 

[-CC-]

Your use of acronyms is getting out of hand Ozz.

 

[Baroque]

I used to do online dating to great success as a student, but now that I'm a teacher I worry about posting my pictures and such out there on a dating site. What if a student found my profile? As such it's been more difficult getting laid lately, gotta go the old fashioned route.

Any teachers use online dating? I suppose I could just not post my face nor mention my career on the page, but that would turn up less attention I'm sure.

 

[Nephilim96]

Are there decent looking women on Fetlife?

There's some. It's worth a look, considering how easy it is to find people willing to do shit. I've looked at the site, but I haven't talked to anybody or done anything.

Aren't you in a relationship, though?

 

[Nephilim96]

I used to do online dating to great success as a student, but now that I'm a teacher I worry about posting my pictures and such out there on a dating site. What if a student found my profile? As such it's been more difficult getting laid lately, gotta go the old fashioned route.

Any teachers use online dating? I suppose I could just not post my face nor mention my career on the page, but that would turn up less attention I'm sure.

I wouldn't worry about any of this. If a student finds your profile, what are they going to do about it?

 

[unknown]

I used to do online dating to great success as a student, but now that I'm a teacher I worry about posting my pictures and such out there on a dating site. What if a student found my profile? As such it's been more difficult getting laid lately, gotta go the old fashioned route.

Any teachers use online dating? I suppose I could just not post my face nor mention my career on the page, but that would turn up less attention I'm sure.

I was on OkCupid while I was teaching in grad school. From my experience, most students aren't into online dating or at least don't fess up to it. I think if students do date online, they use things like Tinder.

 

[MasterOLightning]

There are hot girls on Fetlife aka Fatlife. But they are so swamped that you'll need to be really hot or specifically kinky in the right way to get some attention. I can't say I understand the community super well. I'm sure there's quite a difference between big city and small town experiences. My sense is that there's a portion of people who are truly into specific kinks, and then a bunch of emotionally damaged people that are not great to deal with. There's also a sense of one-upsmanship about who can be the most kinky (akin to the metal phenomenon of being most extreme) where people claim to be into every fetish imaginable, rendering most people's lists of interests moot. If everyone is into everything, then it's nothing. Fetlife has very poor search tools, even if someone was into something particular.

I think it's honestly worthwhile to lurk Craigslist. Girls who use that tend to be a bit on the desperate side and not making use of better resources like OkCupid. A thoughtful message on CL is way more likely to get a response than a great reply on OkC.