Males and Females

[Dak]

Agreed. Sometimes I wonder if it may disappear altogether.

The positive significance a loving and stable lifetime partnership has on the children of the union is undeniable, and were it to be lost, it would be to the detriment of society as a whole.

I do not expect this to happen.

 

[Vimana]

I don't see how a stable lifetime partnership is vital to the functioning of society. But I guess we see things differently.

 

[Dak]

I don't see how a stable lifetime partnership is vital to the functioning of society. But I guess we see things differently.

Stability is nothing without love (in a family). My wife's parents are still "together", but according to my wife there has never been love, and there certainly isn't any now. But they stay married anyway, which isn't good for anyone. My parents divorced when I was a teenager, but all we as the children received was love, even after the split.

My experience with all the products of unloving homes in childhood friendships, the Marine Corps, and my wife's extended family, is that the only people who dismiss the importance of love/stability in a family, do so out of the denial defense mechanism, because they never had it.

 

[Vimana]

I think society could function pretty well without families.

 

[Dak]

I think society could function pretty well without families.

"Function well" is a subjective statement. "Family" is also ambiguous, although I would agree that society could function better with no families at all than with love-less families. You seem to have a dislike or at least a disinterest in women and children though, so your opinion is not surprising.

 

[Vimana]

I think grouping is a source of a lot of issues in humanity, and that accounts for couples, too. But maybe I'm just bitter because my standards are too high to give myself to a woman or even another human emotionally.

 

[SkeletonWitch]

In this day and age, polyamory makes more sense to me.

Decades/centuries/millenias ago, the scope of social interaction was somehow limited by someone's village, city, or small entourage. Nowadays, people's social circles have become ridiculously more vast than before, and thus, the probability of being satisfied by just one partner is lower, as one is more likely to meet other relationship prospects.

If i'm gonna marry a girl to end up constantly cheating on her ten years later, better not step into this conundrum in the first place.

 

[Srontgorrth]

Well, went on a second date with a girl I met on OkCupid, and it went good, but not sure how it was beyond that. Hard to gauge if she's interested in me, partially because (as mentioned in her profile), she's only been in one relationship which was like 6 years long that recently ended, not that that's an issue, but maybe lends to the whole not showing any signs? I feel like I should just ask or something, not sure if that's a good idea though.

 

[sevag00]

None taken. How do you know what they look like? Lol

That's a secret i can't tell.

 

[voilenoir]

Worst case scenario you remove your picture, delete your profile info, and let it rot.

yeah I seriously need to do that. I get e mails constantly that randoms want to meet me. Yet no one sends out a message.

Well, went on a second date with a girl I met on OkCupid, and it went good, but not sure how it was beyond that. Hard to gauge if she's interested in me, partially because (as mentioned in her profile), she's only been in one relationship which was like 6 years long that recently ended, not that that's an issue, but maybe lends to the whole not showing any signs? I feel like I should just ask or something, not sure if that's a good idea though.

any update?

That's a secret i can't tell.

ohhh okie

 

[voilenoir]

I'm going on my 7th year single. Of course dated and slept with men, but nothing solid.
I really need to learn how to hit on men.
damn.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Well if it's any consolation, i'm on my 27th year single without having dated or slept with anyone

 

[SentinelSlain]

Wow. Why? Are you Haredi or something?

 

[Dak]

Well if it's any consolation, i'm on my 27th year single without having dated or slept with anyone

You gotta present it as intentional. Practice some positive spin:

"Cheap bitches don't deserve mah dick!"

 

[Krigloch the Furious]

wow, and I thought I was bad

 

[Master_Yoda77]

Well if it's any consolation, i'm on my 27th year single without having dated or slept with anyone

This is a honorable trait.

 

[Draehl]

Talking back and forth to a cute kinda geeky chick on OKC. She replies back but always takes like 3 days to do so. Beginning to think there's not much interest on her end. I'll drop the "lets grab a bite to eat" line pretty soon to swing it one way or another. If yes then cool we'll keep talking and get to know each other IRL/facebook, or we quit wasting each others time and move along to greener pastures.

One thing the sales portion of my job has taught me is to stop giving fuck about rejection. I'm picky enough about women, can't be too timid to just tell them you're interested. If they say no, fuck em, worry about what they think when you've been dating a while. Definitely still need to work on my smalltalk though...

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Wow. Why? Are you Haredi or something?

No, i was just socially awkward/inept from birth through college, then too busy to have a life after that. I'm also imo significantly less attractive than all the guys in this thread who actually get girls (except for aug, but of course he doesn't count).

This is a honorable trait.

*brofist*

 

[Episteme]

(except for aug, but of course he doesn't count)

Shit I loled.

 

[voilenoir]

You gotta present it as intentional. Practice some positive spin:

"Cheap bitches don't deserve mah dick!"

Couldn't agree more.