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I don't get laid as often as Overwatch does, but if it counts I typically require recovery days for my holes to stop hurting.
Personally I am TOTALLY planning on bait and switching. The instant a ring gets put on it, I'm gonna gain 50 pounds and stop shaving and quit my job and sit around watching daytime TV refreshing gossip websites.
Personally I am TOTALLY planning on bait and switching. The instant a ring gets put on it, I'm gonna gain 50 pounds and stop shaving and quit my job and sit around watching daytime TV refreshing gossip websites.
SentinelSlain
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Fuck. I can't help but measure my self worth by the number of quality women I lay. I am so screwed.
Zephyrus
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Marriage has become so desanctified these days that it makes no difference whether a couple is married or not, excepting the legal benefits. When something's broken, people no longer fix it but they throw it away.
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
I reassure myself when I realize that there's only been one girl I made out with whom I didn't subsequently have sex with.
I don't think that's such a bad thing. Makes the dating market bigger for singles and foreveralones, and happily married couples enjoy their status and don't care what others do because they're happy.
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Dak
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Oh yeah, PP is like twice your size. I'd say that counts.
Well there is marriage and then there is the government contract. I don't consider those the same thing, and government should have no involvement in marriage anyway. But still, marriage is certainly less "serious" now than in past times in this country. I doubt things are much different now than they have been over the entire scope of history/earth. It's definitely a sign of societal decline imo, regardless of where it has happened. I'm big on contract adherence. Without contract adherence civilization falls. Marriage is such a contract.
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
I favor Aristotle's argument that the marriage contract is a source of economic stability, because people, like money, are only useful when we have faith in them.
Dak
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Of course. Contracts in general are the underpinning of all human action beyond individual efforts. Whether verbal or written, when someone breaks a contract/agreement, they become untrustworthy. When this happens en masse, the ability for people to interact and cooperate becomes several hampered.
crimsonfloyd
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OK folk, I need some gameplan advice for my next date with the girl I'm seeing. She is a very nice and sweet girl who so far I am seeing a lot of good qualities in but she is very shy. Our first date was at a sort of snobby breakfast place in Hollywood and I felt like she was overly conscious of the other patrons, waiter etc, basically the fact that other people knew that we were on a date. The second time we met up was on Halloween in West Hollywood. It's the biggest Halloween parade in the US, so as you could imagine it was a madhouse.
So generally we've had a good time; conversation is a bit up and down, we'll have a good conversation and then a stretch of awkward pauses. She's definitely showing interest- she contacted me on Halloween and texts me/ comments on my FB etc. I would like to spend some time with her in a more intimate, private setting for two reasons. 1) I feel conversation will flow better and 2) I feel like she'll let me make out with her if we're alone but not if we're at a bar or some other overly exposed place.
So, with all that in mind, what should I invite her to do for our next date? The easiest thing to do would just be to invite her over to my place, but I'm worried that could be too easily interpreted as me just looking to get laid. If I offer to cook her diner does that make it seem less creepy? Another possibility would a picnic, which avoids the whole "we're ten yards from his bed" factor.
So any suggestions? Also, any tips on getting shy girls to open up (other than the obvious answer of alcohol)?
So generally we've had a good time; conversation is a bit up and down, we'll have a good conversation and then a stretch of awkward pauses. She's definitely showing interest- she contacted me on Halloween and texts me/ comments on my FB etc. I would like to spend some time with her in a more intimate, private setting for two reasons. 1) I feel conversation will flow better and 2) I feel like she'll let me make out with her if we're alone but not if we're at a bar or some other overly exposed place.
So, with all that in mind, what should I invite her to do for our next date? The easiest thing to do would just be to invite her over to my place, but I'm worried that could be too easily interpreted as me just looking to get laid. If I offer to cook her diner does that make it seem less creepy? Another possibility would a picnic, which avoids the whole "we're ten yards from his bed" factor.
So any suggestions? Also, any tips on getting shy girls to open up (other than the obvious answer of alcohol)?
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
How about taking her out to dinner at a nice restaurant, and if things go well, inviting her back to your place to watch a movie.
crimsonfloyd
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Yeah I basically agree with this dude. I was with my ex for five years and am so happy we didn't get married during the first 2 years when things were all roses. I think you've got to be with someone long enough to see them during a really good time in life and a really bad time in life. Basically learn to understand how they react to a lot of different situations. I mean, you'll never know for sure, but I think that at least 3-4 years means you're much more likely to have a healthy marriage with a person you can actually spend your life with.
I'd be interested to see if there's ever been a study of "time spent together and rate of divorce."
crimsonfloyd
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See I feel that invite back to my place to watch a movie can easily interpreted as "wanna fuck?" especially if it wasn't part of our plans from the start.
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
She's not the one calling the shots, here, and if you won't be, either, then she will lose confidence in you quickly. If you're not getting some degree of intimacy after a third date, you're in trouble. Don't interpret her shyness as unwillingness. It simply means she wishes you to be more assertive.
crimsonfloyd
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Yeah, point taken. I agree there needs to be a greater degree of intamacy on this date and have already decided I'm going for it one way or another, but I'm just trying to create a the setting that is most conducive to things working in my favor/ her being comfortable.
The other option is going to a low key bar. Alcohol might help both of us.
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
No, make it a nice restaurant and a romantic dinner. I know it sounds antiquated, but that's what romanticism is by definition. I did that on a first date last year (coupled with going to the cinema) and it got maximum results.
crimsonfloyd
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Yeah, I've been pretty classy so far and she's responding to that well, so I should stay with what's working. There's a nice restaurant about three blocks from my house; close proximity seem like an advantage.
Do you think there's any intrinsic advantage to inviting her over after the diner vs. having it as part of the original invite?
Do you think there's any intrinsic advantage to inviting her over after the diner vs. having it as part of the original invite?
King Richard
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What? Fuck that noise.
You have two options imo.
1) If you want to be really romantic and save some cash, cook her a meal at your place and have plenty of wine on hand. Rent a movie that you'd both enjoy and just spend the evening in a comfortable setting getting to know each other.
or
2) Go to a casual cocktail bar that serves food and just hang out a while. If it's going good ask her back to your place to hang out some more and watch a movie.
Posh restaurants always make people a little bit more edgy. Comfortable casual settings are how shit gets real naa mean?
You have two options imo.
1) If you want to be really romantic and save some cash, cook her a meal at your place and have plenty of wine on hand. Rent a movie that you'd both enjoy and just spend the evening in a comfortable setting getting to know each other.
or
2) Go to a casual cocktail bar that serves food and just hang out a while. If it's going good ask her back to your place to hang out some more and watch a movie.
Posh restaurants always make people a little bit more edgy. Comfortable casual settings are how shit gets real naa mean?
1 is a good call. Makes it very easy to impulsively move into fucking. I used that one to seal the deal with my last girlfriend. She held out till about halfway through The Princess Bride.
Cooking Demonstrates Value, makes it easier to Engage Physically and Nurtures Dependence because she's relying on you for food.
Cooking Demonstrates Value, makes it easier to Engage Physically and Nurtures Dependence because she's relying on you for food.
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