Males and Females

[Satanstoenail]

@Satanstoenail, I didn't immediately say "fuck him", his response to finding out was to tell his ex that he couldn't be friends with either of us if this was going to be a thing. I think that demonstrates a real lack of understanding about what's going on. It's not like I snagged up his ex 2 weeks after they dated; they'd been dating for like 6 months, he moved across the country (and in some conversations with him prior to moving, he had mentioned part of it was to get away from the emotions that dating her caused him due to their incompatibility) and they'd been separated for several months at that point. I seriously didn't think he had any more romantic feelings for her. I don't think I really have to "ask permission" in that case, but maybe I'm being insensitive.

A couple of months is not a very long time. I'd have at least worded him up about it. Him finding out via photos of you together on FB must have sucked. He sounds like he's overreacting based on how long he was with her, but you haven't played this very well imo.

My perspective is that any woman who is an ex is a whore in the mind of the ex-boyfriend, and thus anyone she associates with is persona non grata. If it's a friend, he's not a friend anymore. It's how people (especially insecure people) deal with breakups. They invent whatever they can to justify in their minds that the person they used to date was the sum of all vices. Those who might disagree with that interpretation (i.e. someone now dating/banging said female) are especially threatening to what the ex-boyfriend NEEDS to believe in order to move on and find someone new. It's a part of getting over someone: justifying to oneself that the previous partner was a total mistake.

Is this really what you think? It's an extremely limited view.

 

[Zephyrus]

It's exaggerated (I was drunk), but it does indicate a very common experience. Taking an overly negative view of an ex-partner, being spiteful and all that, is a way of compensating for the feelings one still might have for that partner. Putting that partner into a neat categorization of "the bad past" instead of "the better present" helps one move on. If that ex is dating your best friend, that maintains the presence of something you wished remained in the past.

 

[V.V.V.V.V.]

A couple of months is not a very long time. I'd have at least worded him up about it. Him finding out via photos of you together on FB must have sucked. He sounds like he's overreacting based on how long he was with her, but you haven't played this very well imo.

Yeah, I probably should've asked him but I don't think I would have respected his response, so I'm probably just an asshole in a way, though I also don't think I really did anything on purpose; an attraction happened and we went for it. Also, they weren't pictures of us, just her being tagged in location posts with me on my phone, etc. and he pieced it together. We were careful not to do pictures together because of the pain it could inflict, which I was in agreement with.

 

[Eligos]

So I haven't mentioned her in a while, but my girlfriend's going to Portland for a week. She said she wants to try anal when she gets back. I've never dated a girl who was up to it, and I'm fucking stoked as all get out.

 

[uhhhhmmmm4]

Haha... yaaayyy!

 

[Jimmy... Dead.]

Bill Burr - Advice: Buddy's Ex

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JhnEly8SH3Q

Guy makes me laugh every time

 

[Nephilim96]

So I haven't mentioned her in a while, but my girlfriend's going to Portland for a week. She said she wants to try anal when she gets back. I've never dated a girl who was up to it, and I'm fucking stoked as all get out.

You're still with the partially blind girl, right?

 

[Onder]

Just say you were partially blind for a moment there too.

 

[Eligos]

You're still with the partially blind girl, right?

Yep, it's about to become my longest relationship too. We had a rough spot these past couple months, but things are looking hopeful now that she's graduated and has more time for herself.

 

[Nephilim96]

Cool, have fun inside her anus.

 

[The Butt]

Indeed. Nothing like some good old sodomy.

 

[damnromulans]

Buttsex is cool

 

[Master_Yoda77]

I find it fucking gross, but that's just me.

 

[Jimmy... Dead.]

Nothing like shit stain balls or a nice sliver of turkey gravy on the rim of your head.

 

[End of Glory]

So I met a girl at the bar. She's not what I usually look for but her personality were just too great to deny. We sat and talked for a great while and I started to buy drinks for her. Later on we decided to go to my place, we had some more drinks and then we fucked. Afterwards I found out that she's daughter to one of my co-workers.. Shit might get interesting if she'll be a one night stand. But at least I'm thinking about to ask her if she wants to meet again. Right now she's sleeping next to me, ah what the hell I can't think about that now, need to sleep.

 

[Serjeant Grumbles]

I find it fucking gross, but that's just me.

Give her an enema first so it's nice and clean.

 

[Nephilim96]

Its kind of gross, but good for them if they wanna try it.

 

[Onder]

We both have finals on 26-27th and I think this is going to divide us because she's the kind of girl that gets nervous before exams and I think she'll just spend 10 days studying and well.. being nervous. Last time I saw her was thursday morning and she's still good. Pretty much zero contact. I think this won't hurt her as much as if I just told her because she now has different things to think about.

And just so we're clear, I want to study too. And be alone and listen to Dvořák and shit.

The lone wolves are led to Satan's glory.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

If I were a clingy and anxious girl, I don't think having my gorgeous and charming boyfriend break up with me while I was nervous about exams would actually help me to keep a clear and compartmentalized mind, but of course, I am unfortunately not your girlfriend.

 

[The Ozzman]

I only tried anal once and that was because the girl who wanted it was drunker than shit. I was successful and it's a very 'different' sensation in a good way.

Most girls won't let me do anal because of the size of my cock though