Males and Females

[Vimana]

But seriously, I don't get the whole "can't carry a conversation" thing. There's having social anxiety and no words coming out, but anyone can say shit. It's just that a lot of people have parameters of what they like to talk about and don't like to talk about which affects how deep their conversations go with people.

I think sometimes women think (some) men can't "carry a conversation" because they're not always up for listening to a fucking novel about something generic. Maybe it's not that the man can't carry a conversation, but that the woman thinks what they say should automatically be interesting to the man and worthy of response simply because they are interested in it.

Obviously this does not apply to all women. But I've definitely dated some that take up 80% of the conversation and wonder why the fuck I have so little to say.

 

[KafkaX]

A conversation takes two people taking turns of talking and listening, and quite honestly a woman who doesnt know how to play that game properly is a huge turn off.

There have been a lot of woman I have tried to date but eventually told them to kick rocks because I couldnt deal with their inability to let other people take turns at contributing to our conversations, myself included.

Eventually this shit happens:
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[Jimmy... Dead.]

Ya know what carrying a conversation is to a woman? listening and asking questions. Just get yourself a good beer, maybe take a Vicodin, sit back and rope-a-dope that motherfucker 'til she wears herself out.

 

[Vimana]

I would rather draw a pie chart, one color represents how much of the conversation I take up, and the other represents how much they take up. Then just fill in more and more of their color until they shut up.

 

[Eligos]

There's a difference, as well, between communicating and making conversation, and I think a lot of basic dudes and basic bitches tend to miss that memo.

Silence is most certainly golden when you're just enjoying some quiet reflection.

 

[Jimmy... Dead.]

Silence is most certainly golden when you're just enjoying some quiet reflection.

especially after spewing on her face

 

[Funerary_Doom]

You have to learn to do both because no one wants to be the only one contributing to a conversation no matter how frivolous it may seem. If the conversation isn't your expertise or whatever, then say something else that is. I take people who aren't talking indicating they aren't interested in what is being said.

 

[SentinelSlain]

this girl im seeing is so nice. haha. i win.

 

[Vimana]

You have to learn to do both because no one wants to be the only one contributing to a conversation no matter how frivolous it may seem.

You haven't met my sister.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

It depends on how self-conscious one is. I'm terrible at carrying a conversation and end up just nodding my head a lot, and while I honestly don't even mind listening to a woman talk for an hour straight (it's more social contact than I'll get otherwise), it's really awkward when she finally says something like "I wasn't talking too much was I, haha?" or even just asking me a question, and then not being able to respond in a natural way. Internet forums get the job done so much more effectively.

 

[MasterOLightning]

I think it's better to date a girl who won't shut up than one who has nothing to say. My first girlfriend was the kind where I could put the phone down for 10 minutes if she was in the middle of a rant, and she wouldn't even know. The last one I went on a few dates with was sort of an opinionless robot.

Quiet times are nice and all, but the first couple of dates with someone are challenging if she doesn't give you much to work with. Plus, leading the conversation can be stressful if you have to worry about being too boring or talking too much.

 

[SentinelSlain]

You haven't met my sister.

I have, they're both quite hot.

 

[Funerary_Doom]

That moment when you and your boyfriend break up two days before your birthday.

I almost didn't go to work today my eyes are so damn swollen. Ugh. Life sucks.

 

[Zephyrus]

I'm so sorry to hear.

Was it mutual? And you were both planning on MDF, right?

 

[KafkaX]

Timing for a breakup is hardly ever convenient, but damn...Hang in there F_D

It sounds mutual though, no?

 

[unknown]

That moment when you and your boyfriend break up two days before your birthday.

I almost didn't go to work today my eyes are so damn swollen. Ugh. Life sucks.

sorry to hear that his loss

 

[Dak]

Im never good in these kind of situations because on the one hand I want to well wish and offer sympathy, and on the other hand I want to suggest that maybe it is for the best.

 

[Vimana]

FD, this may sound harsh, and you may not need to hear this, but you'll get over it. It does not devalue the experience, but the idea that you won't/can't get over it both overvalues the experience (thus cheapening it) and makes a dissonance when you're actually getting over it.

 

[Hannibal_Lecter]

I wouldn't actually say that women really talk all that much more than men, it's just talking at different times and talking about different things

When all the girls leave the room a bunch of guys will spend all fucking day talking about football

 

[SentinelSlain]

i hate people who only talk about dumb things like football or bitchy gossip