Males and Females

[Dak]

I dunno. I think "partying" and "hedonism" are not the reason a lot of us don't want children. I think it's more to do with the fact that so many young adults feel burnt out about humanity. Growing into adulthood and realizing you can't raise a kid in the world you want to raise them in, exactly how you want to raise them (too many rules, stupid other parents, strangers are potential enemies not friends, etc), is a big bummer. Potentially another "selfish" hump to get over? Maybe. Adulthood is a slow process. For a lot of people from upper-middle class backgrounds, full adulthood happens at like 30.

Still not having a kid until I've sat on it for at least a year straight and still think it's a great idea.

I know this is all true for many, and I totally sympathize about the concern regarding social pressures on how to raise kids. I just don't think it's true for most. There's never a great time to have kids, on a meta view - always some craziness in the world to be concerned about.

Like I said, I'm not advocating for people to run out and start procreating; the kid thing is just a symptom of bigger cultural problems ("burnt out about humanity"). But it got brought up, so I added the minority viewpoint.

I'll refer this matter to Plato: some people give birth to children, others give birth to ideas.

Pretty sexist.

Edit: lol deleted.

 

[CiG]

Clearly have to be bitter to have a negative position on something.

I'm not trying to be a cunt, it's just there's this beer/partying thing running through your comments.

 

[The Butt]

It doesn't though. Having kids is the original "paying it forward". You could adopt if you would prefer that, but I don't see many foregoing having kids because they plan to adopt instead. That would cut into party time.



Now that's the damn truth. I was present for the whole ordeal for both of mine, including a red light running dash for the hospital with one. On the flip side, between pregnancy and breastfeeding, no period for well over a year, so a small silver lining.

Who said anything about people who can't? I'll even file people who legitimately can't afford to under "can't". I'm in the boat now - it would be irresponsible to have any more children atm. But it certainly isn't because it's going to cut into muh beer money.

Why does it matter though if someone chooses the party life over having a child? It is their life, should they not be able to live as they choose without being called "selfish"?

Having a child is not the end-all be-all.

 

[Carpe Mortem]

At the risk of sounding like the biggest cunt here, I agree with Zeph's deleted comment. To each their own for sure, but I'm a mathematics study and every formula I crack is my baby. My ultimate happy ever after is being able to solve the impossible equations of lore, sipping a bloody mary in a bathrobe before a blackboard.

Call me bright eyed and bushy tailed but that's the dream.

 

[Dak]

I'm not trying to be a cunt, it's just there's this beer/partying thing running through your comments.

Beer and partying run through the majority of comments on this forum.

 

[CiG]

Yeah and you seem to resent it.

Or something.

 

[CiG]

Many of the most satisfying moments in my life have been letting my son rummage through my music collection and seeing him get psyched over songs and bands, so don't get me wrong, I think having children is pretty awesome in the long run.

 

[Dak]

Many of the most satisfying moments in my life have been letting my son rummage through my music collection and seeing him get psyched over songs and bands, so don't get me wrong, I think having children is pretty awesome in the long run.

Yeah, my son is getting old enough to start teaching him simple games like checkers etc and it's pretty awesome watching the gears turn as he learns not just the rules but what works and what doesn't. Also get reminded about how big the world looks from those ages.

 

[Funerary_Doom]

I like kids but I'm not interested in having any kids. My mom had me in her mid 40s so that could change, but I just don't see it happening. Kids really suck up a lot of your free time and money, and I like to do more traveling and work on my career. Also, I don't think I could take care of another person. It's so much work. Even though I'm a special education teacher, during my free time they aren't in my face and I can focus on other things (or things that involves them without them being there).

I think it's a choice and either way it's a beautiful choice.

 

[Master_Yoda77]

I'm interested in having children simply so I can watch Saturday morning cartoons and Dragonball Z with them and not feel ashamed of myself. Just, not anytime in the near future. Right now, I'm too busy getting drunk and eating chicken fingers.

 

[CiG]

Why on earth would you be ashamed of doing that!?

Hahaha.

 

[Master_Yoda77]

Well, I'm not.

 

[Jimmy... Dead.]

Yea you definitely need to hit up some slow fat girl Tuesdays and get a couple of Friday night patron bitches in. I don;t know if you live near a major city or not but get on Tinder and like every bitch in the vicinity, then do some work

 

[zabu of nΩd]

I do live near a major city, but I got scared of Tinder after reading that STD rates have spiked in the past few years.

 

[Jimmy... Dead.]

What city? if you dont mind sharing

Yea, I get the STD thing but all you're really doing is getting out to get to see what you like and experience more, so that's all it has to be.

 

[CF87]

I'm interested in having children simply so I can watch Saturday morning cartoons and Dragonball Z with them and not feel ashamed of myself. Just, not anytime in the near future. Right now, I'm too busy getting drunk and eating chicken fingers.

There's nothing wrong with that shit. I use to play Mario all the time and video games and about to have my mother find my Nintendo's and playstations,etc.... So I can get back into video games. I'm going to hook that shit up to my new 42 inch flat screen. I have never played video games on a TV this big.

 

[Omni]

I don't think there's anything wrong with watching cartoons and playing games when you're an adult.

 

[CF87]

Women are cunts. If you think that being free has to do with some bitch, you might want to think otherwise.

 

[Matt]

I do live near a major city, but I got scared of Tinder after reading that STD rates have spiked in the past few years.

Are you specifically afraid of Tinder only or all online dating apps? Because there is not a correlation to just one app specifically lol

 

[Zephyrus]

Date with Classics Redhead is tomorrow. Not sure how long we're meeting for. Noon at the coffee shop in any case. Going to bring a book of Greek poetry and a set of juggling balls in case we engage in activities I'm particularly good at (as for the third activity, probably not this time).

A bit nervous about this. I even shaved my beard off the other day just in case that's what she favors. If not, it can always grow back.