Males and Females

[Zephyrus]

Met up with prospective female #2 today, at the same coffee shop in fact, haha. I'll refer to her henceforth as Art History Girl. Tall, slim brunette, very good looking, who's just gotten her MA and is doing adjunct teaching at a nearby college. We took a class together last semester and have met up a couple times since. But regardless, I feel MUCH more comfortable interracting her than I did Classics Redhead yesterday. We're probably going to make it a regular thing to meet for coffee to do our schoolwork and chat, but at some point I could start directing things in a romantic direction, especially if things don't work out with Classics Redhead.

She's also planning to spend a couple more years in Iowa before looking elsewhere for PhD. programs, so hopefully that doesn't impede her openness to the possibility of dating.

It's really about time I try dating people who are closer to my level of education. Not that those I have dated were any less intelligent, but being a grad student and having similar interests, just being an academic, is becoming clear to me as a prerequisite for compatibility.

 

[Omni]

Yoda: I would ask her straight out if she is interested in going on a date with you. No mincing words either. If you're worried about it, tell her that you're cool to just be friends if that isn't the case.

Zephyrus: If you're more comfortable interacting with Art History Girl, I would focus on her and just be friends with Classics Redhead. If CR is awkward to interact with, AHG is probably a better choice.

 

[Zephyrus]

That's my immediate deduction, at the moment, but also factor in that I've know AHG for a while and only met CR in person for the first time yesterday. I'll see how my next rendez-vous with CR goes to see if I'm mellower.

 

[Zephyrus]

Aaaaand Art History Girl just updated her FB relationship status, and is seeing someone. Perhaps she detected I was interested in her today and decided to make it public for that reason.




FUCK

 

[The Ozzman]

Or she did it to scare you off which has happened to me before.

I don't think it's worse than the ones who act interested and then pull a 'slow fade' or 'dead in a ditch' and just stop communicating entirely.

 

[Omni]

Harsh.

 

[Zephyrus]

Or she did it to scare you off which has happened to me before.

I don't think it's worse than the ones who act interested and then pull a 'slow fade' or 'dead in a ditch' and just stop communicating entirely.

I literally just started screaming and punching things for 3 straight minutes, but now I actually appreciate that she did that. I hate ambiguity and this made things clear.

Here's to Classics Redhead (who i'm chatting with online atm).

 

[Omni]

Did you actually do that? I've never been that mad about anything.

 

[The Ozzman]

Women can be harsh creatures man. I hear stories from women about dudes on OKCupid being creepy but women are on an equal level when it comes to flakiness from my experience. Luckily I found a woman who values being communicative as much as I do.

 

[Zephyrus]

Did you actually do that? I've never been that mad about anything.

I've broken windows before. Happens on rare occasions.

 

[Zephyrus]

Funny, I posted an Antaeus song on FB and sort of expressed that I was in a state of rage, and IMMEDIATELY one of my fellow Classics grads, a girl I've been attracted to, started messaging me asking if I'm okay, so I opened up to her about it (and about my recent breakup). It really helped console me.

But she's a colleague in my department. WAY too risky.


edit: JEREMY CAN'T HANDLE BEING SINGLE

 

[The Ozzman]

You may have to be your own best friend for a while, dawg.

 

[Zephyrus]

You're probably right. At least I'm getting all this out of my system now before the semester starts. I'll have enough on my plate once classes resume.

 

[Master_Yoda77]

Next time I visit we are going to hit up the local dives, find some greasy bar sluts, and crush mad gash, dawg.

 

[Dak]

JEREMY CAN'T HANDLE BEING SINGLE

 

[Omni]

No need to rub salt in the wound.

I do think it's not an invalid suggestion that Zeph could stand to work on his anger a bit. That sounds pretty serious. Take care of yourself, bro.

 

[SentinelSlain]

I really could do with a blow job.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

I don't think rare private outbursts amount to a serious anger issue.

 

[Zephyrus]

WOW. What a fucking day.

So I feel like I should be upfront with you about something - I am much more in need of friends right now than anything else. I don’t know if it’s a really good idea for me to be seeing someone with romantic/other intentions when I’m so new to town. I am also not sure anything could happen between us in that way regardless, but especially because I think I’m a bit too guarded as an uprooted “lone reed” right now. I don’t have much of a support system here, so latching onto the first person I meet would be both unhealthy and unwise. I’ve really enjoyed talking to you and hanging out with you so far, but I think at this point I’d be better off having you as a friend. I know we only met once, but I wanted the intention to be clear because of the nature of the site we were on. I hope that’s okay. I really do mean I’d like to be friends, I’m not just saying that! However, if you’d rather not go that direction, I /completely/ 100% understand.

Well, I really do appreciate that she was upfront and honest with me barely a day after our first date, and didn't keep me hanging in suspense for any needless amount of time. I respect and understand her reasoning. Maybe you're right, Mike. I should focus on me for a while, and my studies, and not agonize over this shit for a long while.

 

[AllShallFall]

If there's any good side to it, at least there's no ambiguity with CR. I recommend to definitely keep her as a friend, because who knows what might happen later down the line?

For the time being, focus on you, dude!