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The Ozzman
Melted by feels
Master_Yoda77
Juggalo
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Houses Ov Mercury
Aim for artful asymmetry. One can be legless and the other severely vegetable-retarded. It's art.
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MP alerted me that he's not getting enough secks and hates it. I have the libido of a dead grandma and I don't want to go off the pill. From the male perspective, what is the timeline of how long you're willing to hold out until your gf gets her shit together?
We see each other about 5-6 days a month and probably do it 4-5 times a month (weekend visits only).
MP alerted me that he's not getting enough secks and hates it. I have the libido of a dead grandma and I don't want to go off the pill. From the male perspective, what is the timeline of how long you're willing to hold out until your gf gets her shit together?
We see each other about 5-6 days a month and probably do it 4-5 times a month (weekend visits only).
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
My gf stopped taking the pill a couple months ago and the improvement not only in her libido but in her overall personality made it totally worth it.
Dak
mentat
unknown
fuck ftagn
yeah with this new girl I'm going out with, she's not on the pill, and I'm thinking I don't want her to take it after experiencing my ex-girlfriend's libido crash while on the pill
in regards to your situation krampus, if you're seeing MP 5-6 times a month and having sex 4-5 times out of the 5-6 visits, I'd say that's not bad. But it depends on a lot of variables. If you're not interested in the sex, then that's definitely not good.
and what dak said...more foreplay never hurts (unless if your idea of foreplay is fisting or something)
in regards to your situation krampus, if you're seeing MP 5-6 times a month and having sex 4-5 times out of the 5-6 visits, I'd say that's not bad. But it depends on a lot of variables. If you're not interested in the sex, then that's definitely not good.
and what dak said...more foreplay never hurts (unless if your idea of foreplay is fisting or something)
It's not really a matter of foreplay. When I do it I have fun and enjoy it, it's not like I burnt off my nerve endings or anything. But a lot of the time it's just like "meh I don't feel like it." I can count every time I've manhandled myself in the past 5-6 months on two hands.
unknown didn't you say your ex went months without putting out? I've been on the same pill for basically the entire duration of our relationship so I'm not sure it's that. For the first year or two we were at it like 4-5 times a day.
unknown didn't you say your ex went months without putting out? I've been on the same pill for basically the entire duration of our relationship so I'm not sure it's that. For the first year or two we were at it like 4-5 times a day.
unknown
fuck ftagn
yeah. prior to my ex being on the pill, we were like jack rabbits. but the pill along with other emotional factors sent her libido to negative territory. it sucked.
Jimmy... Dead.
contemplative curmudgeon
@ Kramp, Well your last sentence explains everything. It's never the same after 1-3 years, and anybody that says the sex is the same is either in complete denial and/or doesn't know his/her partner feels differently.
It's totally fine for it to be different. I don't expect to be the wundercouple who maintains teenage sex lives for 75 years or anything and I don't think he does either.
I think some balance will be found. The weather improving will probably help a lot.
I think some balance will be found. The weather improving will probably help a lot.
unknown
fuck ftagn
Jimmy... Dead.
contemplative curmudgeon
Yeah, I don't see how that helps either. Chicks are funny man.
King Richard
Hello there
My girlfriend and I are on "a break," whatever the fuck that means, by request from her. She claims to be feeling confused and somewhat apathetic to the idea of us getting married and is worried she's going to have to deal with my indecisiveness when it comes to taking "the next step" each time in our relationship (ie getting married, having kids, I don't know what follows that...group sex?). I didn't understand the logic behind this at all but I could tell something was amiss with her. She just seemed pretty meh about me flying over their during christmas. She claims she was glad I came and all that but had a feeling of anxiety the whole time and didn't know what it meant.
I don't know what to think really. Obviously if she's struggling with something I'd like her to be able to express those feelings to me and not wait months to tell me, that's what has me more upset than anything. It wasn't her wanting to go on a break or what she's actually feeling, it's the fact she waited so long to tell me while I'm sitting around thinking it's all good and by the end of summer I'd be moving out there and we would be moving on with our lives.
It's not a breakup and she says she still loves me and we aren't going to see other people (that's the last thing I want to do tbh). It's pretty soul crushing to hear something like this, especially when I was willing to propose to her while I was in Hawaii last.
Thoughts?
@krampus: Thanks for the FB message.
I don't know what to think really. Obviously if she's struggling with something I'd like her to be able to express those feelings to me and not wait months to tell me, that's what has me more upset than anything. It wasn't her wanting to go on a break or what she's actually feeling, it's the fact she waited so long to tell me while I'm sitting around thinking it's all good and by the end of summer I'd be moving out there and we would be moving on with our lives.
It's not a breakup and she says she still loves me and we aren't going to see other people (that's the last thing I want to do tbh). It's pretty soul crushing to hear something like this, especially when I was willing to propose to her while I was in Hawaii last.
Thoughts?
@krampus: Thanks for the FB message.
You're welcome.
I don't know what to think tbh. The only situation in which I can imagine a "break" legitimately just being a break and not a slow die-off breakup is if you specifically wanted to go on a fucking spree and rack up your numbers until you were satisfied knowing you had the best option out there. If she's been distant for a while she may have met someone else. I don't know either of you though so obviously my opinion means nothing.
In the past when you guys had problems or arguments, did you have to draw it out of her or was she upfront about her thoughts and feelings?
edit: @Jimmy S.A.D.
I don't know what to think tbh. The only situation in which I can imagine a "break" legitimately just being a break and not a slow die-off breakup is if you specifically wanted to go on a fucking spree and rack up your numbers until you were satisfied knowing you had the best option out there. If she's been distant for a while she may have met someone else. I don't know either of you though so obviously my opinion means nothing.
In the past when you guys had problems or arguments, did you have to draw it out of her or was she upfront about her thoughts and feelings?
edit: @Jimmy S.A.D.
King Richard
Hello there
I have no desire to date or nail other broads, ZERO. And if you knew me when I was younger you'd be absolutely floored with that comment. There's nothing about Ashley I don't like/love, to include wanting to only have sex with her and content with a monogamous relationship.
She hasn't been distant, we talk on the phone every single day. She's such a homebody that picturing her having met someone else is very distant in my mind. Would I bet my life on it? Um, no. There isn't much I'd bet my life on. But I'd say there's a 99.99999999999% chance that's not an issue at all. I even asked her last night if she wanted to date someone else and she said no way.
From what she explained to me, it might just be that she's a little disenchanted on the idea of getting married and having kids because it's taken me so long (7 years on April 30th) to take the next step with her and she's worried it's going to be like the rest of the time we're together, if we're together. It's a pretty hard point to dispute honestly, because I'm extremely indecisive but I have my own legit reasons. However, lately, as in the last year and a half I've moved on from that indecisiveness and expressed my willingness to take the next step with her, but apparently it's more of a "too little too late" feeling on her part. Again, it's hard to argue that, but I can't help but feel completely blindsided and heartbroken because I've made such huge steps in the past couple years in trying to be the best person/boyfriend I can only to have it seemingly thrown right back in my face.
She's also having trouble letting an incident go that occured 3+ years ago. I didn't cheat on her, but people were spreading rumors that I messed around on her and with basically no way of proving otherwise she had to believe me on faith alone that I wouldn't do something like that. This, for reasons unknown to me, still bothers her anytime I hang out with my friends, even if it's something as simple as going golfing, just because of the people associated with the event that caused us to nearly separate. I don't even know what to do or say about this, which is partly her problem. She says she doesn't know why it still bothers her and doesn't want it to bother her anymore but for whatever reason it does.
Sadly for me, she's the type to let something build up and not until it gets to the boiling point will she break down, just like with happened a few days ago. I can't stand that because I'm more of a tell you right now type of person, but I understand other people operate differently. I've tried telling her to let me know what's bothering her more immediately, and she has for the most part, but according to her these problems she's facing now weren't that obvious until she finally understood why she was feeling how she is, if that makes sense.
I don't know what to do, if there is even anything to do. She basically wants to just keep our distance (not literally because she's already like 20525925 miles away). Basically all I'm doing is wanting on her to call me and let me know what she's decided; either she'll get over this stuff and we'll move on, or it's over. I'll tell you right now, if we do end up breaking up, there's a very big part of me that is going to die inside; the part of me that gained her kindness and understanding, whereas I used to be a little spiteful asshole for much of my life.
The feeling I'm getting is what you just mentioned though, it feels like to me she broke the news to me and is eventually just going to end it. Whether she knows that right now or not I don't know, and she said she doesn't either, but I'm still holding out hope all will be will. If she thinks that trying to ease into the break up by taking a break is going to soften the blow she's mistaken.
She hasn't been distant, we talk on the phone every single day. She's such a homebody that picturing her having met someone else is very distant in my mind. Would I bet my life on it? Um, no. There isn't much I'd bet my life on. But I'd say there's a 99.99999999999% chance that's not an issue at all. I even asked her last night if she wanted to date someone else and she said no way.
From what she explained to me, it might just be that she's a little disenchanted on the idea of getting married and having kids because it's taken me so long (7 years on April 30th) to take the next step with her and she's worried it's going to be like the rest of the time we're together, if we're together. It's a pretty hard point to dispute honestly, because I'm extremely indecisive but I have my own legit reasons. However, lately, as in the last year and a half I've moved on from that indecisiveness and expressed my willingness to take the next step with her, but apparently it's more of a "too little too late" feeling on her part. Again, it's hard to argue that, but I can't help but feel completely blindsided and heartbroken because I've made such huge steps in the past couple years in trying to be the best person/boyfriend I can only to have it seemingly thrown right back in my face.
She's also having trouble letting an incident go that occured 3+ years ago. I didn't cheat on her, but people were spreading rumors that I messed around on her and with basically no way of proving otherwise she had to believe me on faith alone that I wouldn't do something like that. This, for reasons unknown to me, still bothers her anytime I hang out with my friends, even if it's something as simple as going golfing, just because of the people associated with the event that caused us to nearly separate. I don't even know what to do or say about this, which is partly her problem. She says she doesn't know why it still bothers her and doesn't want it to bother her anymore but for whatever reason it does.
Sadly for me, she's the type to let something build up and not until it gets to the boiling point will she break down, just like with happened a few days ago. I can't stand that because I'm more of a tell you right now type of person, but I understand other people operate differently. I've tried telling her to let me know what's bothering her more immediately, and she has for the most part, but according to her these problems she's facing now weren't that obvious until she finally understood why she was feeling how she is, if that makes sense.
I don't know what to do, if there is even anything to do. She basically wants to just keep our distance (not literally because she's already like 20525925 miles away). Basically all I'm doing is wanting on her to call me and let me know what she's decided; either she'll get over this stuff and we'll move on, or it's over. I'll tell you right now, if we do end up breaking up, there's a very big part of me that is going to die inside; the part of me that gained her kindness and understanding, whereas I used to be a little spiteful asshole for much of my life.
The feeling I'm getting is what you just mentioned though, it feels like to me she broke the news to me and is eventually just going to end it. Whether she knows that right now or not I don't know, and she said she doesn't either, but I'm still holding out hope all will be will. If she thinks that trying to ease into the break up by taking a break is going to soften the blow she's mistaken.
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