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The Ozzman
Melted by feels
I have a date with someone I met through OKCupid on Saturday. I will let you all know how it goes upon completion of the engagement.
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
I realized why I am so messed up. It's because I identify with my father so much and look to his example as a model to guide me through life. He met my mother in middle school and married her pretty much right after he graduated college. Well, I just graduated college and I'm not where he was.
It's weird because sometimes I get royally pissed at Simone de Beauvoir. Not because she's wrong, but because she's right. Women have been liberated for the most part and raised to the status of men in society, for the most part. The result is that it's so much harder to acquire and maintain relationships and marriages. All my idols, Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Machiavelli, all had wives to come home to and fuck everyday while during the day they pursued their projects and made an impact on the progress of human civilization.
I want to be like those idols, to have a project, but I feel I cannot do that until I have that female component squared away so it is no longer a distraction and rather a certainty I can depend upon. That was how it was for two years of my life and during that time I made the greatest strides in my life and really formed my identity. Now it's all fallen apart.
It's almost a negative dialectic because I know objectively that women are equal to men, but the fact of that means that the tradition of keeping women in cyclical, predictable, traditional roles in society can no longer be relied upon and it's keeping men like me from reaching my full potential as a human being. Part of that humanity is the need to have intimacy. That's a basic need, low on Maslow's hierarchy, and without it I cannot reach the top of that pyramid of self-actualization.
It's weird because sometimes I get royally pissed at Simone de Beauvoir. Not because she's wrong, but because she's right. Women have been liberated for the most part and raised to the status of men in society, for the most part. The result is that it's so much harder to acquire and maintain relationships and marriages. All my idols, Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Machiavelli, all had wives to come home to and fuck everyday while during the day they pursued their projects and made an impact on the progress of human civilization.
I want to be like those idols, to have a project, but I feel I cannot do that until I have that female component squared away so it is no longer a distraction and rather a certainty I can depend upon. That was how it was for two years of my life and during that time I made the greatest strides in my life and really formed my identity. Now it's all fallen apart.
It's almost a negative dialectic because I know objectively that women are equal to men, but the fact of that means that the tradition of keeping women in cyclical, predictable, traditional roles in society can no longer be relied upon and it's keeping men like me from reaching my full potential as a human being. Part of that humanity is the need to have intimacy. That's a basic need, low on Maslow's hierarchy, and without it I cannot reach the top of that pyramid of self-actualization.
The Ozzman
Melted by feels
The Emptier
t3h b3aSt0rZ
So....as I end high school, I have realized there is a scary amount of women that have wanted me...a lot of confessions come out when you leave, and these are stunningly gorgeous girls too. It's a bit sad because I never really took the time to chase womenz and I haven't had a legitimate relationship at all. Also many of them I have been around but haven't actually talked too, which is weird, because all it takes is one little conversation and maybe something could have happened. Who knows. Anyways, It will be more of a priority, I suppose, to at least make some great girls that are friends and get into relationships, I think it's important and I'll have the confidence to do so.
Episteme
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Don't really want to burst your bubble dude, but I believe that's "leaving high school" syndrome. I had the same thing happen to me when I was leaving high school 6 and a half years ago, all these girls started coming up to me telling me the same thing. I also wasn't one of the jocks or loser kids, in fact I was known as the stoner dude who listened to metal, played guitar.
I was going away to Singapore for 2 years for my national service, and back then it seemed like forever. I had relationships in high school but they weren't really of any substance, (I was 17 what do you expect).
Are you planning to go to college? You'll do most of your growing up after high school.
I was going away to Singapore for 2 years for my national service, and back then it seemed like forever. I had relationships in high school but they weren't really of any substance, (I was 17 what do you expect).
Are you planning to go to college? You'll do most of your growing up after high school.
Jimmy... Dead.
contemplative curmudgeon
Zeph, I think you should continue bettering yourself. There is no reason you shouldn't find someone, especially as an intellectual. Sooner than later through similar interest and virtues you will meet a woman who will value you. I think the best way to find someone is to work on yourself first and through your own creation and self discovery find and most importantly choose someone you value.
Zeph - find a chick who wants that too and synchronize your schedules so that you're busy at the same time and free at the same time. At the risk of sounding like Dakryn, what I've got going on with MP sounds like a situation that might be good for you. We have the same job with the same hours and both like our hobbies and creative pursuits to happen in the same "after work" window. No one is sequestered into a "traditional" gender role and we are just two people who make time for each other when it is convenient. I don't think it would be so hard for you to meet a woman who is wired similarly to you.
failure_of_threads, just wait until you get to college dude. The world awaits you. And that's life when you're an attractive dude, missed opportunities everywhere. Plenty of time for you to make life happen!
failure_of_threads, just wait until you get to college dude. The world awaits you. And that's life when you're an attractive dude, missed opportunities everywhere. Plenty of time for you to make life happen!
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
In the past the girls I've been with have all been inferior intellectually, making it easier for me to dominate them. The only exception was Psychobitch, who was only with me for so long since I was her first boyfriend so she didn't know better and the whole relationship was basically me worrying about when her strong personality was going to make things shitty (which happened after the breakup, it turns out).
I know the one I want should be the one most like me--an intellectual with similar goals--and that's my ideal, but somehow I find that too good to be true and I'm too impatient to simply wait for that to happen.
I know the one I want should be the one most like me--an intellectual with similar goals--and that's my ideal, but somehow I find that too good to be true and I'm too impatient to simply wait for that to happen.
rms
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Dak
mentat
I appreciate the use of this in this thread, since it inevitably prefaces something good
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Matt
Active Member
Haha, I'll put it on the list. And anal is great. A tight ass is fantastic especially if you aren't wearing a condom. However, I don't how pleasurable it is vs. vaginal sex from a receiver's standpoint.
They were fun to play with. I enjoyed them actually.
haha, you know I'm just messin
Haha yeah dude it's all good
Being single is fine when you're young tho...besides, you could end up teaching somewhere out of state, so you wouldn't want to get in a sticky situation before you settled.
Zeph, I know what you mean, man, with the whole "distraction" thing... not having a girlfriend absolutely blows but you should focus on yerself man. Yer an extremely intelligent dude, it shouldn't be too hard to find a woman that matches up. You just gotta stop looking man, that's when they start appearing.
Yes, they feel quite different. And frankly, I prefer vaginas. The ass is a bit tighter, but the texture is less pleasant and you can't go as hard or as fast or in as many different positions.
Tbh it's still possible to have a low-maintenance relationship (which is what you want, it seems). Or, better, find a girl who actual inspires some actual emotions in you, and then you won't mind having to pay attention to her now and then. Or get really good at jerking off.
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Raina
Cineva de undeva.
Maybe irrelevant, but I remember in some history that Plato and Aristotle were somewhat gay and Socrates hated women, since it distracted him from pursuing knowledge.
Machiavelli is a good example, though
Machiavelli is a good example, though
viewerfromnihil
Vein-Marbled Tower
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
Maybe irrelevant, but I remember in some history that Plato and Aristotle were somewhat gay and Socrates hated women, since it distracted him from pursuing knowledge.
Machiavelli is a good example, though
Also, I'm melodramatic and pathetic when drunk. But thanks for listening.
cookiecutter
Proceed to Ultraslamming
I think this is very good advice. Just like you (probably) don't want a girl with low self-esteem who lets you walk over her, women aren't attracted to guys who don't have anything going on for them independent of the relationship. Zeph, you have intelligence, ambition, and a wide range of interests. These are things girls like, just keep pursuing them and it is likely you will meet someone along the way.
But we like our e-friends
Krigloch the Furious
Pants full of poo
Thought it was going to happen. But the ex doesnt want to get back together. Fuck
Bah! Awesome girl too
Bah! Awesome girl too
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