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15/16-years olds as well? I would to younger kids, but for that age I think it is a bit late to shield the kid. No matter if you do or not, the things you don't like are still there, and the kid will know about them. Then I think it's better to let the kid see it, and rather talk to it about the matter at hand. I just don't see not allowing kids to wear smth as the right way to go. Take DWD (sorry, DWD, for using you as an example, but it fit here): So he was sent home for wearing that shirt, and his mother made him sell it. Do you believe that made him change his view of anything? I hardly believe so, but we can always ask him.
DWD, what do you think about the matter? Did it change your views, no regarding what views you had/have now, of anything?
At all, I think that instead of just refusing kids to do and say something, one should make them see for themselves what they think is appropriate and not, and then find out for themselves what they want to say and do. I believe that, for most kids, if you take some time to talk seriously to them (this should be done during the entire childhood, gradually more serious, after how much you think the child will understand - but _not_ underestimate them here!) about these things; talking to them as serious and respectable persons, they will end up thinking about the same things as you, regarding what is right and what is wrong. This has to do with our, as humans, common views of norms and values. (I think this lies in the area of our unconciousness that Jung called The Collective Unconcioius. - translation correct??) If they think some differently, then that should, within certain lines, be respected. The worst thing to do is to be too hard on them, not letting them see things for themselves.
