Because the general position of the trigger-crusaders et al is that we should not possibly say (or by extension do) something that might "Trigger" someone. The problem is that everything is or could be a trigger. It is not inherently calloused etc to say "damn you got raped" back and forth to your friend while killing each other at Halo or whatever, anymoreso than grilling is callous and insensitive behavior to everyone who is in some way upset or whatever by some aspect of the action.
Agreed. I definitely agree that no one knows for sure what could be a "trigger" therefore, monitoring and legislating exactly what we say (especially joking with friends) and the jokes we say is not only fruitless but absurd. It's a contradiction in of itself to not only define what a trigger may be to a sexually assaulted victim (which i think is a bigger offense tbh), but it is also a contradiction to also define what humor means to each individual personally then calling it "flippant" because you believe that you alone (or theorists) can define where or what place humor comes from.
Yes language is important, but lets face it we do not use language the same way when talking to a close friend, a colleague, a boss, etc. There's tons of code-switching in language and yes I code-switched with my friend from HS because that is how we speak to one another, and if someone on FB becomes upset with the way we are using language, honestly that's really their problem. It wasn't meant for or directed to them at all, and even after apologizing to the girl who was offended she still had something to say. Therefore, it leads me to believe that there's no pleasing such people who butt in on other people's conversation with their own woes (which is ironic because my HS friend who made the joke is actually a sexually assaulted victim herself) just for the sake of being argumentative. Overreaction is just a disease tbh, and once it happens I really don't care to deal with it.
Like seriously where's the line on being this overly "sensitive" with others? I could argue she triggered my PTSD of apologizing to people who in turn instead of accepting said apology decide to send me longer messages about how I was wrong, causing me anxiety and panic attacks. :rolls eyes:
Edit: and before anyone gets the wrong idea, I'm not insensitive to rape jokes. I've stated earlier what my personal boundaries were when making them (the victim not being made fun of, not a real situation, raped being portrayed as something acceptable) and would never ever laugh or make a joke over a real rape scenario. However, saying to my friend from HS "my iPod was sexually assaulted! LOL" does not cross any personal boundaries of ours, and therefore we found it funny. We are not going to take back our laughs, because that is just bullshit.
