What do women want?
"not me"
That's about all I've managed to figure out so far in this lifetime.
It seems like I have a lot of the things women want... sense of humor, witty, intelligent, good listener, creative, a wide variety of interests, etc...
My problem is that I become friends with them, and they say stupid things like, "I'd be totally interested in you in a relationship sorta way, but I'm afraid it would end someday, and I'd hate for things to be wierd between us because you're such a great friend."
That happened to me about a month ago with a girl I met this summer. It's not very often that I meet someone I really like... I mean, there's the whole "yeah, she's pretty" sorta thing, but this girl I seriously liked in every way I could think of. *sigh* It will probably be many years before I meet someone I really like again. If I ever do.
And the sucky part is that for all her talk about not wanting things to "get wierd" and ruin our friendship, we haven't hung out at all during the past month since she said that.
...and people wonder why I have a hard time saying how I feel sometimes. It only led to problems. *shrug*
As for meeting people online:
Well, I've never had an online "relationship" for it seems kinda ridiculous. I've had online friendships though. In fact the girl I met this summer I met online, and we e-mailed and ICQ chatted a lot... and I mean a ton. Like it was common to have 4 hour ICQ conversations 3 days in a row. She is a really cool person. I miss talking to her.
I've met other people in real life that I met online first, and that was just brief conversations because we were at the same college and chatting online and just decided to meet somewhere and talk for a bit.
Once it was a girl who was 4 years older than me and said she was a model. It was mostly a wave and a hello in the computer lab, because we found out that we were both sitting in the same lab. It was kinda awkward because we didn't say anything else, but things like "now I know who you are" and then the uncomfortable silence and we went back to our computers.
One time, the girl i was talking to was in another room, and was the only person in the room, and just asked me to come in and say hi. I did. We realized we didn't have much to talk about and didn't communicate with each other ever again after that.
One time was a girl I actually knew (well, I was in the same class/grade as her - we never hung out or anything) in elementary school who saw my name in a college phonebook and called me one night. (my name's unqiue enough that it stands out) Then we started e-mailing and chatting online for a while. One time we decided to meet in front of a building, and we actually recognized each other. We walked for maybe 15-20 minutes and everything was cool. We met and hung out between classes off and on during the semester, but eventually got too busy and didn't hang out much anymore.
One girl i was chatting with, and i worked at the computer helpDesk, so I told her to come up and say hi. We talked about metallica CDs for a bit and that was the only time we ever talked in person.
And lastly, I met two girls who were older than me in the library upstairs. One of them worked at the reference desk, and we were chatting, and she said, 'come to the reference desk'. We chatted for a bit, and it was ok, but I was kinda nervous because they were older than me. I was like 19 or 20, and one of them was 23 and the other was like 32 or something. Later, I got a message from the 32 year old saying that her friend (the 23-year-old) liked me. the 23-year old one was the one who worked at the desk and asked me to come up, and we used to chat a lot.
I was kinda scared of her because she was older than me. (retarded, I know). She eventually got a job as a teacher halfway across the country and I haven't heard from her since.
But I guess for the most part, it's awkward meeting online people in real life. I mean, most of the people I only met in person once, and of the ones I met more than once it was just a couple times. We never became like great real-life friends or anything.
The girl I met this summer though... we were hanging out about once or twice a week which was nice... but we haven't hung out at all since the whole "I don't want to go out with you" thing.
And back to what women want? Still have no clue. It varies from person to person, but it seems like having all the qualities a women wants isn't enough, because when I know girls, I always get stuck at the "friends" phase and never get past that.
And what do men want?
I should answer another time, since this is long already, and I'm typing it in class. I can say I've only met two people in RL that I got to know well enough to say they had it.
And my one girlfriend was not one of those people.
ahh, and the cliches start flying!
