What would you take back?

There was this girl, and it's one of the few things that I regret that I never got as close to her as I could have...smart, beautiful, dammit, now I'm melancholic- thanks Tyrant!:rolleyes: :)
 
Originally posted by CladInDarkness
Nothing,for if I was to change something in the past I woudn't be who I am today.
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i've always thought this was bullshit. (no offense, cladindarkness ;)) i mean, yeah, you'd be the person who didn't make that dumbass mistake (speaking abstractly). that would be a good thing! then people say, "but i learned from my mistake." that sounds to me like a way to validate one's bad decision-making skills. :err:

There's never been one specific potentially-life-changing event that i consciously passed up. in fact, i almost didn't transfer to a college closer to home out of stubborn pride, but when i did i started dating the guy i've been with for 3 1/2 years. that's one of those things that i could've regretted, but i made the "right" decision. (yeah, yeah, maybe i would've met someone at the first school, blah blah. point is, everything worked out, and i have no regrets.)

All I can think of are little things, like embarassing or offensive things i wish i hadn't said, etc, but nothing earth-shattering.
 
Originally posted by Lina

All I can think of are little things, like embarassing or offensive things i wish i hadn't said, etc, but nothing earth-shattering.
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Yes..
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I said something to one of my closest friends which I regret saying. She wanted me to say it though.. she knew I was going to, but then she stopped talking to me, and I really miss her..

We have only just gradually started talking again after 6 months, which I found really suprising because she's the one who started conversation with me.. and hopefully our friendship will patch itself up.. because I love her..

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Originally posted by Lina
i've always thought this was bullshit. (no offense, cladindarkness ;)) i mean, yeah, you'd be the person who didn't make that dumbass mistake (speaking abstractly). that would be a good thing! then people say, "but i learned from my mistake." that sounds to me like a way to validate one's bad decision-making skills. :err:
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How is it bullshit? Suppose he somehow changes a 'dumbass' mistake he made in the past... the series of evens from that point on will probably change in accordance to the new path he chose to take, rather than the 'dumbass' path ;)

Therefore it's pretty safe to say that he wouldn't turn out the exact way he is today if he did change some past mistake.
 
Originally posted by transfixed


How is it bullshit? Suppose he somehow changes a 'dumbass' mistake he made in the past... the series of evens from that point on will probably change in accordance to the new path he chose to take, rather than the 'dumbass' path ;)
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if everything turned out great, then it wasn't a mistake. i've heard so many teen mothers or people who never applied themselves in school or crack addicts say, "i don't regret anything because then i wouldn't be who i am today." UHHH, EXACTLY, you wouldn't be a teen mother / unemployed / drug addict. it seems like people use that line after they've made a lot of stupid decisions that could've been avoided.


edit: something is only a "mistake" if the person is worse off as a result. therefore, who in their right mind would prefer to be worse off?
 
It's strange that you have asked this today. I just ran into 'that girl' a few hours ago, and i'm feeling a little odd.

As much as i agree with Clad... I would give anything to change the way things went between us, we went our seperate ways; yet i would give up who i am and everything i beleive in simply to be freinds with her again...

My heart twisted itself full-circle when i realized it was her, and when i realized how 'un-phased' she seemed to act when she saw me. She even gave me that '...I was going to call you' speech.





ok. now i feel bad.
 
Originally posted by Lina then people say, "but i learned from my mistake." that sounds to me like a way to validate one's bad decision-making skills. :err:
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"if others had not been foolish, then we should be so"

I gotta disagree. Without fucking things up at some point, nobody'd ever know any better. I've done a lot of things that were stupid... and now I don't do them anymore!

I don't think there are any "life-altering" mistakes I've made. My lack of forsight or mental or emotional preperation in certain instances has caused some unfortunate stretches of time I'd sooner not have happened, but now that they have, I posess that foresight, and mental and emotional preparation.

It's evolution, baby!
 
Originally posted by HoserHellspawn


"if others had not been foolish, then we should be so"

I gotta disagree. Without fucking things up at some point, nobody'd ever know any better. I've done a lot of things that were stupid... and now I don't do them anymore!
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i'll clarify. if you've weighed the consequences (what you've learned versus the other outcome) and you think you're better off for making the decision you did, then it wasn't a mistake. so i guess we're debating our interpretation of the word. i apologize for not being clearer earlier. for instance, you don't need to have a baby as a teenager in order to realize it's something to avoid in the future. we didn't need to have the holocaust to know that it was despicable. my problem is when downright stupid people throw that line around as justification for their poor choices in life, when they simply should've known better to start with.
 
I see what you're getting at Lina, and you're right about actions/decisions where the consequences HAVE been weighed. Mistakes, however, ARE something that one can learn from, otherwise no one would change anything about themselves. I've done stupid things before; made mistake...But that I learned from them is the sole reason I don't regret EVERY mistake I've made (I regret a few...).
 
Originally posted by Lina
i'll clarify. if you've weighed the consequences (what you've learned versus the other outcome) and you think you're better off for making the decision you did, then it wasn't a mistake.
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Well, sure it was a mistake, it was just a mistake I happened to learn from, but this is long past the point of quibbling over semantics.

To clarify (some more, why not?), the overall outcome of given scenario (which doesn't really exist, we've drifted into the land of metaphorical hypotheticals) was overall NEGATIVE - by learning the lesson from said scenario nothing is improved, the same mistake is simply not made again, and perhaps some non-impactful knowledge is gained. Thus, it is still a "mistake", however, I wonder if this mistake was not made then, if it would just be made the next time the scenario came around?
 
Hindsight points out all of the mistakes I've made - but how can I say if any one of those changed, that I wouldn't be either a millionaire or dead?

This kind of ties in with the fate thread - maybe every move you make, whether you regard it as a mistake or not, has a purpose in fullfilling ones life. Again, I don't say I totally believe this, but I'm not willing to write off this theory quite yet.

I've wondered about one instance in life: I had my name in a temp agency for a summer job. I had worked at Raytheon the previous summer. I was waiting to find out if I had any jobs, and one morning, the phone rang. It was the temp agency - they had a job for $8/hour - driving a limo for the president of Honeywell. An hour later, a Raytheon job came in at $10/hour. I took the Raytheon job for the $, but what if I got to know the president of this big company? Maybe he would of liked me, and I could of had a future at Honeywell. Who knows.

I guess I wouldn't change anything, because I'm here.
 
Never getting into a fight in 7th and 8th grade ( I would not recomend figths but it would have made my life so much easier and all the other kids would had stop the teasing ), Pretending i could have cowbow friends in high school and that i did not bother me ( case it, when you are sitting in a party all by yourself and absolutely all your friends are danzing with each other you know you do not belong ) Entering a hardcore band ( it is a huge mistake to think political stuff is really worth anything ) Staying in a hardcore band ( when it was obious that i was limited to make "hardcore" stuff and i could not do the riffs i wanted ) Considering some patetic orientation wannabe teachers opinion on my career ( I should not have wasted my time in an mecanical engineering degree if i realized that i did not liked that after i got to really know the profession ) Thinking hardcore people can be your friends ( THey can only be friends of your ideology as soon as you grow up and leave it behind they live you behind and call you a black metal faggot cause you dig dark tranquillity ) Making your entire life around people who obiously did not cared about you just to watch it all fall down, Being closed to the world cause a girl ignored you, Fail all university courses cause you cannot get a girl out of your mind, Not telling your parents and trying to come up with the money for the courses yourself, leaving your kardex in your backpack with all the fail courses, Being affraid of failing cause you never fail before in school bigtime ( i thought my parents would be so disappointed they would hate me i always was an honor rol student until collegue ), Choosing another mayor you do not like just because is incredible easy, Thinking that having 1 thing in common is all you need to be friends with someone and trust them, Thinking people takes friendship as seriously as i do, thinking finding a lost love is a good thing ( is not you have nothing in common like you did before, you have lifes apart sometimes too apart to be friends again etc ), Trust people that backstabbed you in the back from day 1, there is about a year of crap left but i cannot go on without loosing it....:cry:
i found funny how someone regrets nothing in his life just look up
 
i had taken the chance of sing with a good metal band indeed, which really used to appreciate my voice...i wish i had never hurt the only one man who has really love me, and who i love...i whish i had made him happier....:rolleyes:
 
Of course I am somewhat happy with who I am ,,, I would of never smoked weed ,,,,but if I didn't I wouldn't have all the good friends I have now ,,,

But the thing I regret most ,, is buying a BC RICH MOCKINGBIRD N.J SERIES ....It is hell to own ,, hell to play ,,, damn you BC RICH ,, damn you ,, and the worse thing is ,,, I payed 1000 for it ,, and I can probably only get 750 for it and thats not enough to buy a guitar I want ,,,,,,,,,,, damn ...
 
Mmmm i never played a mockbird...or an NJ series but i own a RaveII series warlock ( that is somehow worst than the NJ ) and im happy specially considering what i paid for it ( 250 bucks almost brand new ). I ruined my intonation a bit and the G sometimes goes out of tune when i use full bendings or exesive vibrato but other than that is a joy to play. Maybe your guitar is crap but i would not blame it on the whole company there are other damn fine b.c. rich guitars out there you just have bad luck
 
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