For me, it's always been about finding work where the "duty-performing-time" is also living time at least a good part of it, but some people say that because I'm lazy.
i think that it is only natural, the atrraction between two people so to supress that is bad. if someone likes a person in a band then that band person underneath is a human and that is what you like, it may be the music that you first attracted to.
i like band men, why is that bad? flirting is natural.