paradoxile
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I gave a bad example and I have a better one and I'll clarify what I mean exactly...
say there's this nice man on the block and he's calm and nice to everyone and not stressed at all and you at him as an example while you as a father have a stressfull job and kids to take care of while he's single, has no kids and no stressfull job because he just won the lottory or something...so you cannot compare yourself as a person with lots of stress that needs to be vented to a person that has no stress.
when it comes to taking your father's behavior as a negative example...what you do unconsciously is see that not one but most people who you consider decent don't act this way and that's what alerts you.
about jewish religious laws there is somethin that's called "shmirat negi'a" which means saving touch...basicly means you're not allowed to touch(not even a handshake) anyone of the opposite sex until you're married and then you're only allowed to touch your wife/husband...talking to girls is allowed.
your dad's behavior impinted in you I meant some of it and behavior and personality as tou know are tightly linked...so I meant exactly what you said...off course same thing can be said about your mom too after all half your genes are hers. and some could be your father's hidden genes(kind of two black people have a white baby because both black parents are mixraced, in reality this situation is not very probable because the black gene is more domminant but it could happen kind of like in "the human stain" movie).
kids are a blessing and a curse and yeah some kids are much more a curse and they're quite a handfull but that also depends on how you raise them.
If you ferberize(have the baby teach himself to selfsoothe by not giving him attention when he cries) a baby he will have less demands of his parents as he grows up because if you give him too much attention he will grow up too needy and too dependant of his parents(even as a grown up) but if you give him to little attention as a baby he might grow up psychologicly fucked up,too shy and won't be able to make friends easily and be constantly lonely.
off course every child has a different demand for attention and different noise level...you know there are babies that their crying is bearable and not very noisy and easily soothable even if they're in great pain while others are litteraly screamo babies that cry every second for attention in brain piercing pitch and 100dB volume(equivalent to standing a few paces from the speakers at a metal show).
say there's this nice man on the block and he's calm and nice to everyone and not stressed at all and you at him as an example while you as a father have a stressfull job and kids to take care of while he's single, has no kids and no stressfull job because he just won the lottory or something...so you cannot compare yourself as a person with lots of stress that needs to be vented to a person that has no stress.
when it comes to taking your father's behavior as a negative example...what you do unconsciously is see that not one but most people who you consider decent don't act this way and that's what alerts you.
about jewish religious laws there is somethin that's called "shmirat negi'a" which means saving touch...basicly means you're not allowed to touch(not even a handshake) anyone of the opposite sex until you're married and then you're only allowed to touch your wife/husband...talking to girls is allowed.
your dad's behavior impinted in you I meant some of it and behavior and personality as tou know are tightly linked...so I meant exactly what you said...off course same thing can be said about your mom too after all half your genes are hers. and some could be your father's hidden genes(kind of two black people have a white baby because both black parents are mixraced, in reality this situation is not very probable because the black gene is more domminant but it could happen kind of like in "the human stain" movie).
kids are a blessing and a curse and yeah some kids are much more a curse and they're quite a handfull but that also depends on how you raise them.
If you ferberize(have the baby teach himself to selfsoothe by not giving him attention when he cries) a baby he will have less demands of his parents as he grows up because if you give him too much attention he will grow up too needy and too dependant of his parents(even as a grown up) but if you give him to little attention as a baby he might grow up psychologicly fucked up,too shy and won't be able to make friends easily and be constantly lonely.
off course every child has a different demand for attention and different noise level...you know there are babies that their crying is bearable and not very noisy and easily soothable even if they're in great pain while others are litteraly screamo babies that cry every second for attention in brain piercing pitch and 100dB volume(equivalent to standing a few paces from the speakers at a metal show).