I have been lucky, my best friend growing up was an excellent drummer, then I didnt play much for 10 years, then another group of friends had started a band and I began playing again. THen I hooked up with this group of guys around here in 90 and this drummer has been one of my best friends so I need not sweat the drummer thing, I also seem to unconsciously refuse to play without a drummer because two long periods in my life I had no drummer I did not play much. Might be because I began playing with a drummer.
Cant stand the sound of drum machines and non organic players is against my religion. Recording drums has been our largest hold up as well, soon we are expecting to do some recording with an electric set, minus snare and highhat and see how it goes. There is a private studio owned by the guitar player I mentioned we could go to and do it right but funds prohibit this. I priced drum micing and IIRC it would be somewhere between $600-1000 and still not have a board to mix it all on. I have the technical electronics skill level of a 4 year old so I would spend money in a studio before spending money on equipment cloggin up my basement.
As much as I critized people that just want to play and have fun... I just want to play guitar and leave all the technology to somebody else that already has the equipment and tried and true experience. Its all about money which is beyond short these days and music is little more than a labor of love. We have no expectations for "success" we just want to get some stuff out there for people to listen to, mainly other local friends that knew us.
Damn I am very jelous you lived through the 80's and 90's. I was born in 93 but it seems all my favorite music was made during the 80's and 90's and I wasn't around to see it happen . I am very influenced by Arjen's DIY method but before he had his Ayreon project, he spent 10 years in a band so by the time he went solo, he must have had a book of contacts and people who could help him out. He even had to sell his own house to release his first album!
A lot of people ask me if I want to be famous. I gave up on that thought a couple years ago, but my goal is to be above the average myspace band. 99 percent of them are scene/screamo and most likely won't even last longer than 5 years. So I don't expect to sell out arenas or go platinum but I want to at least fill a small club and sell a few thousand albums someday.