Males and Females

[zabu of nΩd]

You guys wear your privilege on your sleeve tbh. Its easy to pooh-pooh game when you've already got what you want out of women.

 

[Baroque]

I feel like the dating world is dominated by people more interested in and better at "getting" people than developing relationships. Since people who have long-term relationships are meeting people less since they're staying with people more, they're invisible to the people more or less constantly on the prowl.

People work on game with easier targets and try out lots of candidates to find the best long term partner possible. Elitist as it may sound there is often such a thing as upgrading your partner. Not saying I do this, but I can see why others do it. I usually stick with the first decent candidate I find until they get too crazy/annoying before moving on.

 

[Master_Yoda77]

You guys wear your privilege on your sleeve tbh. Its easy to pooh-pooh game when you've already got what you want out of women.

I've only banged one girl and have never had a serious relationship. I ain't got no game fool.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

I was addressing that mainly to Joe and other Mike.

 

[The Ozzman]

Which other Mike?

 

[zabu of nΩd]

unknown

 

[unknown]

me

 

[Zephyrus]

Master Yoda Mike is usually referred to as Schmidt in real life fyi.

 

[unknown]

and I'm usually referred as Koger. Whatever "privilege" I have is because I've actively put myself in situations where I've had to learn how to talk with people on a day-to-day basis. Every job I've had has dealt with the public constantly. I took a public speaking class and an acting class in college to get over stage fright.

I'm not the most attractive guy; I'm okay. But I've learned to converse. Normally, I'm misanthropic and antisocial. I don't give a shit about most people. Which is why I did online dating because I'm not good at approaching people. But I've learned how to hold a conversation and show an interest in a person (sometimes genuine, sometimes not). I can count on one hand the number of girls I've dated (five) and the number I've slept with (two of those five). There is no "game." There's only the individual. Looking at it like a game only devalues the concept of a relationship and sees people as winners or losers.

 

[Onder]

My favirite pornstar doesn't do anal videos. In one video the guy stuck a thumb up her ass but that just won't do. I will have to shoot myself and my family.

 

[~Neurotica]

And I found out that one of my fave male pornstars that I considered to be a gentleman who marries every girl he stuffs in a movie - also screws guys

 

[HamburgerBoy]

I had a dream that I was watching anal porn where the guy pulled out and a trickle of blood flowed from her anus. I woke up, thankfully without an erection. I don't mind anal in porn but it doesn't do much for me.

 

[waif]

I've slept with a bunch of girls so I guess I'll weigh in on game: it's about presenting your best self. Don't lie about who you are, just try to show your best aspects and avoid situations that will expose your worst. There's nothing deceptive about it - it's the social equivalent of posing for a picture.

 

[Carpe Mortem]

I come at men very aggressively with equal parts romance and intimidation. Wrote my dude poetry when we first got together, showed up with an adventure bag and beer, shit like that. I'm always shocked it isn't the creepiest thing ever because I half laugh the whole time about how scary I am, but damned if it hasn't always worked.

I think my unapologetic expression of self is a turn on or something. No shame here. Pretty good rule of thumb, being yourself.

 

[rms]

That's like saying applying makeup isn't deceptive, I think you need a new word there

 

[waif]

What would you use?

 

[Vimana]

I don't think that's deceptive. Showcasing the good and avoiding the bad is how you have a pleasant interaction. Having more good interactions with people is how you get more good stuff to share, anyway. Any given person could have tons of stuff to share good and bad, but most of it will either be irrelevant to the other person or unpleasant.

But that's different from doing stuff like negging, or showing a level of interest different from the one you have in order to make the other person do more work to keep you interested.

I come at men very aggressively with equal parts romance and intimidation. Wrote my dude poetry when we first got together, showed up with an adventure bag and beer, shit like that. I'm always shocked it isn't the creepiest thing ever because I half laugh the whole time about how scary I am, but damned if it hasn't always worked.

I think my unapologetic expression of self is a turn on or something. No shame here. Pretty good rule of thumb, being yourself.

I definitely consider it a good sign when women take the initiative with their interest. It shows they're self-aware, independent, and go for what they want. Helpless insecure women are such a turnoff.

 

[0Marty]

I don't give a shit about most people. Which is why I did online dating because I'm not good at approaching people.

I have the same issue. I think I can talk quite well when there's a good topic and I have no trouble joining ongoing conversation, but I really suck at approaching people. My problem is that I hate small talk, talking about general stuff. It bores me to death. But it's hard to find an interesting topic if you don't know nothing about the person, but you can't know anything if you don't speak with him/her. Stupid loop.

 

[Mort Divine]

But that's different from doing stuff like negging, or showing a level of interest different from the one you have in order to make the other person do more work to keep you interested.

People talk about make up being deception, but would pretty likely practice or even defend this kind of shit.

Also how fucking self-absorbed do you have to be to assume that make up is deception?

 

[HamburgerBoy]

Women wear make-up and attractive clothes for themselves, damn it! Keep your leering eyes away, men!

(unless we're hating on unrealistic beauty standards, in which case women wear make-up because they're forced to by a male-dominated society)