Jimmy... Dead.
contemplative curmudgeon
You must meet the wrong women. I find it so sexy when a woman does her own thing and isn't worried about trying to please everyone.
I've been with all types really. And they're all goofy. They have no clue what they want. I'll tell you what they want - they want you to figure it out. I'm not talking about her pleasing everyone. I'm talking about her pleasing you and learning you. Sure she's going to do her own thing, shit you want her to, who wants a girl around all the time ugh.
All I'm saying is that it starts with you and ends with you. When it comes down to it they want you to guide the relationship and that means training her in what you want and like.
Guys like you, you're like seals dating sharks. Women are abusive and it's not their fault, it's your fault.