For quite awhile, my marriage has been pretty much roomate-status. I have no idea what happened. We worked on it, too. Counseling. Etc. But nothing changed. I mean, we are awesome friends but there was no chemistry whatsoever. I felt used. I let myself fall for someone else while just going through the motions at home. Finally, I just had had enough and decided it wasn't going to work out between the wife and I. That life is too short. But, it's not that simple. A month later I decided happiness with someone else wasn't worth it to me to be one of those guys who sees his kids on weekends. So, the wife and I basically have to START COMPLETELY OVER. Seriously. And I've lost the most amazing woman I've ever met in the process. Hence my advice. Marriage requires shitloads of work. EVERY SINGLE ONE of my friends has marital problems. And they're not assholes. They are normal people. It's just hard. Children make it much much harder.
27, btw. lol