Well, first of all throw out what you think you might know about how the Japanese perceive Americans. Things have changed quickly over the last decade or so and what a Jap may say certainly has little bearing on what they feel. Then, keep in mind that I don't live in Tokyo, nor Kobe, nor Yokohama, nor Osaka.
If you believe what you hear, then shit, I should be drowning in pussy right about now. I mean hell, even I look around and can't help but notice some geeky ass, white, slobs with some nice Jap tail on their arms. However, typically that's in large cities. You see statistics that say 1 in 10 couples in Tokyo is an international couple. That's Tokyo. And while many decades ago the most common sort of international relationship here was between a Japanese woman and an American man, that isn't the case these days. It's actually Japanese men with Chinese, Korean, Philippine, or Vietnamese wives.
Why is it different in big cities than were I am? Lots of reasons really. They are more used to foreigners in the cities. There are more English speaking women in the cities. The big cities often have what we in the business call "Eigo bandits" which are women that will date you just to improve their English skills. That's great for some guys. They don't care in the slightest if they're used if they can get some pussy out of the deal. And indeed, sometimes they get just that. Some guys want a real relationship and are heartbroken when they find out they're just being used by Eigo bandits.
A few years ago it was fashionable to have a foreign boyfriend. We were like a fashion accessory. Sometimes they'd use us even while having a Japanese boyfriend because we didn't really count. We're not real people afterall. We're just gaijin.
You do occasionally see an international couple that can't seem to communicate worth a shit where no side is being used by the other by that's a rare occurance. Most often the foreigner can speak Japanese or the Jap can speak English. In my town, that limits the fuck out of me. Sure, they think I'm the most handsome motherfucker in this prefecture but that doesn't do much for me if they're scared as shit of me. I mean, foreigners scare the Japs enough. The only thing that scares them more is the idea of having to try to talk to them in English. My lack of Japanese skills hinders me greatly. I've seen people actually sigh with visible relief when they've realized they wouldn't have to speak with me. And I'm pretty sure I've talked about the time a woman literally ran away from me.
So if my chances are pretty much limited to those that speak English, in this town that narrows it down to my students and my boss. I hate my boss. Of my adult students, a lot of them are married house wives. There are a few though that I wouldn't mind a shot at, however. But my boss told me early on that that was a no no. I have at times said fuck that and flirted with some but my timing has always been horrible. One was a hot little young doctor who I think was fairly interested in me. She promptly moved away. I started flirting with one and then she almost starts crying and tells me her ex-boyfriend just died suddenly of heart failure. I'm also a lot more wary these days after that fucking accusation of sexual harrassment that I still have no details about.
And if you ask most people, Japanese or not, if they like America, Americans, or American culture you'll probably get a resounding "Yes!" But that's bullshit. They say it but they don't believe it. Make no mistake that these are biased, racist people with a superiority complex. There might be some individuals they like or some aspects of America they like but they think it and we are inferior. Are we cool? Yes. But we're stupid, lazy, complain all the time, violent little mudbloods (I've heard some crazy Eugenics shit while here). Interest in English and Western culture has plumeted in the last decade or so. It still just so happens to be trendy at this point to say they're gung-ho America.
I've been told by most everyone here that I'm handsome as all hell. They honestly think I look like a celebrity. I don't only get looks because I'm a lone gaijin but I get a lot of lusty "mmmm-hmmmm I'd like get me some of that" looks. But that does me no good. A friend of mine here once who's been in Japan longer and knows her shit once estimated that I'm a good 9 on a scale of 1-10 for fuckability to Japanese women. That is, based on looks alone. But factor in racism, how scared they are to speak English, our violent reputation, etc etc etc and I'm down to a 6.
I've even had students express their shock at my lack of pussy here. Those same students then go on to say that, yeah, I have no fucking chance with the women here. I think I mentioned that a student not long ago said I was a danger to women here. Sadly when students say such shit, they never explain themselves. One student once gave me a little paradox. He said to get a Japanese woman here I had to learn to speak Japanese but to learn to speak Japanese, I had to get a Japanese woman.
Hopefully I explained this well enough.