@rahve: people stop talking to us because of two main reasons, and none of them is worth a tear, lest you be touched by the lack of intellect consistently displayed by humanity.
reason number one: we have a way of addressing people that very often fails to take into consideration, voluntarily or not, how the person on the other hand of communication will receive our words. therefore, only persons who use a code of communication similar to ours will want to keep an open flow of discourse. given our peculiar set of rules and some psychological traits that are sort of rare in our past common surroundings, this phenomenon is sporadical. in particular, very seldom you speak with the other person's reaction in mind. to get people talking to you, you need to see what gets them going, and forget about what you want to say, at least in the beginning. you don't give a fuck about this. so the effort of reading between the lines and figuring out intentions rests completely on the other terminal, in most cases. this brings us to
reason number two: most terminals are, as any computer scientist will know, stupid terminals. they don't have the means to decipher, or they have short attention spans, or they are afraid of seeing what goes on inside another human being. so they bolt the door.
h (my words of wisdom impress me none)