marduk1507 said:
I understand why Rince and Undo are so eager to go on and on with this discussion. They are separated right now, and although I sincerely hope they have/will have good sex when they are together and that theyll enjoy it, they abstain now, and the idea that theres nothing wrong about having a quick one with someone you find attractive when you are at a party, lonely and a bit drunk, must seem repulsive to them. I think the very first reaction of UC+R was to KitKats post, and the root of all what followed. Kat didnt say that it was ok to have a quickie when one is in a relationship, she said she was faithful. All she said was that when shes single, its ok to her to have sex with someone she finds attractive, but isnt really in love with. And I understand that, I think I also would find it hard to resist such an opportunity, Im not a saint (provided I was single of course). So, its all about trying to understand the others point, even though you disagree with it.
And I seriously cant believe how can plintus annoy anyone. Yeah, 99% of his contributions to this discussion were retarded, but thats plintus, for fucks sake!
Actually, no. My current separation from my boyfriend has nothing to do with my opinions said here, they were like that since I started to go out and date guys. And I'm not eager at all to continue this discussion, I posted my opinion and wanted to finish with it, but then some people started to see something retarded, close-minded and whatnot in it, so I wanted to say more, 'cause, well, I don't like being called like that just because I have other priorities or opinions in my life than most of others. I know that Kat didn't say that, I just wanted to react on her post and say I find it wrong in MY life, not in hers or anybody else's. I have many friends who do that, I know persons who cheat on their partners or who do those quickies only when single. And from first time I heard about it or had "pleasure" to deal with it, I found it repulsive and sad. Again, what others do is their business, I was just saying what I think and why I think like that. If my friend will be happy changing his partners once a week, I'll deal with it alone and accept him / her completely the same, same as if he / she did any other thing I don't really like, but I am aware he / she is a person for itself and has a right to be different, if that will make them happy, it will make me happy too, but not in MY life.
Contraception: Yes, they work, but not in 100 % cases, that's all UC wanted to say. And yes, for me, risking something like a disease or pregnancy because of casual sex is stupid. Yes, it happens really really rarely, but hey, who says you're not the next "lucky" one?
And plintus annoyed me only 'cause of what he said in his last post, and the way he offends UC - yes, it bothers me when someone offends someone I love, be it my friend, boyfriend or family, and I will react on it when it gets too big for my taste and when I see it starts to bother the person I love (so all stupid remarks trigger me to react, yes, 'cause I don't find anything wrong in standing up and defending person I love if I think he / she is right, not because I think he / she can't do it for himself / herself, but because I can't get over seeing how some stranger is saying something about a person he / she doesn't know really in a way I find only offensive and does it only because he / she doesn't like that person in general - big news, I don't like many people, I don't go around offending them, unless they start first), otherwise I really like him as a person and find him much more than what he represents here. Also, if this was in real life and I had a choice of avoiding the persons who do that all the time, I would and wouldn't react on his / hers offenses unless they became something unavoidable, like here. But that's another topic. What amazes me is that this
should be an open community where everybody tries to understand other side before getting into stone age of throwing the rocks just because it's, well, throwing the rocks. If I ever offended anyone here, I did it because of the case before or I did it not thinking or saying my sentences in a wrong way, but never with sole purpose of just offending somebody because I find that person stupid / annyoing and whatnot. I can't say I know anyone here, except UC and I don't put people into categories if I don't know them really well. Why am I even writing all this? Because this is community I used to like, I joined 'cause of that reason and today I still like some persons here very much, the ones I don't like I try to avoid and at least listen to what they have to say and never assume I couldn't start liking them the very next day, 'cause I do realize I don't know them much, they can always surprise me and make me see something I didn't before. And it bothers me to see that many people here don't do that, they just keep and keep offending the same persons, never even stopping to think does that person maybe also have feelings and can be hurted with what they say, not because of offense itself, but because of it's meaning. It is easiest to offend and it's sad that many people here choose that way.
In the end, sorry for going so much in off-topic, this bothered me for some time and I wanted to get it over with. Not that I think this will change anything or make me feel better about it, I just wanted to get it out of my system.
