I don't know about everyone else but as a girl I usually work my way to the front and then cling to the railing/stage edge for dear life. I've had instances of guys trying to pick me up and put me into the pit just so they could have the spot in the very front, and that's not cool...but it wouldn't be cool if they did that to a guy either. bottom line...if I'm in a pit I expect to get the shit kicked out of me. And if you're there and you expect to be treated differently then you should go to the back and not take the risk.