@Ellestin
Considering this is the impact that lasts for any duration of time after we leave this mortal coil i'd say its rather disconcerting. I developed some good friendships that I still have 20+ years later. This is a rarity unto itself. I know plenty of people with ZERO friendships. This is oft a by product of marrying and having kids at a young age. Probably a better pursuit if one truly wants a tear shed in one's name. Why would anyone care about a forlorn tear? It symbolizes leaving an impact, making a difference upon another human being. I contest I got no tears lined up in friendly ducts. No matter how good these friendships may be, they never passed into a familial relationship. The potential was there, but life progressed in a way to set a drift.
Cousins, aunts, uncles, bbq dwellers, et al. Are these truly family that are impacted by your existence? Probably not, if anything a mere placebo to give the illusion that one is surrounded by loved ones. Any sorrow brought forth in their breast is just a reminder of their own mortality. Life goes on with one less plate at the Fourth of July BBQ. No biggy, meat is getting expensive.
That leaves one with just immediate family. Wife and kids. These are the people who will truly be dealt a blow across their breast. IF, and its a big iF youre not a shit bag. Im blessed to have a great marriage, but ill be damned if it doesnt take a heap of effort. How many out there put effort into marriage? I know a shit ton of philanderers. Hell a coworker I have legit clocks out and sprints 4 blocks to fuck a thot from another dept on his lunch break. This is more common than uncommon, the train will derail at some point. This carnal activity will leave a ton of longing come keeling. What has been built marriage wise for such ease of betrayal? This temple lies on quick sand.
Then there's kids. Another outlet to leave a lasting impression. How many people piss away this opportunity by being inactive in their childrens lives? Wiping their asses and lifting them to school means fuck all. One needs to have a constant dialogue and be an active parent. These blue haired freaks dgaf if their parents breathe. Perhaps only to the point where they themselves would have to get off their arses and fend for themselves.
I speak in broad strokes. RCers are a higher lot with loftier pursuits and depth to their marrow. Id wager everyone here has a few solid relationships. What I contest is that the vast swath of humanity has nothing but an empty familial facade, where very few give af if ye piss, shit, or breathe.