I think, what is good to do.... like, when you're a fan of somebody, or an acquaintance of that somebody, and you're speaking to them. Is sort of try to imagine being on the receiving end of the comments, and perhaps how you would feel if you heard those same comments endlessly and almost felt persecuted by them.
If I were in a particular Swedish metal band that was big on the international circuit at the moment... I would feel kind of weird being told to move to somebody's country so that I could play at their 35th birthday, if you kinda get my drift.