It's funny how everyone calls me an unpleasant elitist, yet I'm ALWAYS civil to people on the board until they flame me for saying something they can't comprehend.
On to your points: I'm technically saying that the BIG BANG made each person how they are, that is when the 'whole' was created. Everything from them is just a chain of events, however large or tiny, which evolved over time into the world we have now.
You're correct, lots of things are miniscule and have barely any effect on anything, but they're still all part of the 'whole'. I didn't say it could be pinpointed, and I didn't say anything about 'destiny' or 'fate'. Nothing is mapped out in the stars, nobody is controlling this, and the fact that it's pre-determined isn't even important, except in relevance to this conversation.
You're perfectly correct that there are limited options to a new-born baby's reactions at first. They cry, they whinge, but if you put them all in the same situation they'd all do something 'slightly' different. Because their genetics are all 'slightly' different. And considering that every child grows up treated differently, in a different environment, it's no surprise that everyone is different. To be the same as someone else, because you would have to not only have that person's exact genes, but you'd have to do exactly the same that they did, every second of every day, at the same time and the same place, with the same environment, with ALL elements of the world being exactly the same as they were when the other person experienced them. Anyone who thinks this is possible is a retard.
I'm not sure why you need research. It just seems obvious to me. You suggest the existance of randomness, when there's nothing to back it up. Just because humans don't have a grasp on why something has happened, doesn't mean it was random. Regardless of this, there are plenty of books which put it far clearer than I am able to.