Oy ve, F Slim, are you ready for a rant then, cuz I feel one coming on:
A. I do not have the PM function turned off. It's about as next door as it will get. That problem is inherent when a small number of people are spread over a large area, so we have to find alternative ways of connecting. I do honour to my ancestors by telling you about them. It is never once a waste of my time. It is my priveliege, not your debt.
B. There are a few newsgroups out there which have formed to prevent your problem of not feeling connected to others at your "stage of development". Some of them are full of morons. I'd recommend trying one of the European groups for starters, if you're interested. They can be a good tool if you can find a group with a moderator who's not out to create his very own church where he gets to set the rules (common in North America among faiths like mine, where there is no dogma).
C. And this is the important bit: NOBODY SAID IT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE EASY TO GAIN THE KNOWLEDGE. That's why it is a sacred thing and a sacred act to search for it. It is not easy. If it were easy, you would not have to think long and hard and search inside yourself to find what you are looking for, and if you don't do those things, you've only learned an empty shell with no substance to it. There are plenty of people out there who think they are asatru but who do not understand what it all really means. That's because they've read all the right words and lerned to burp them up at the right time. Connecting the words with the soul is a whole another thing. Saying you are something and living it are also two different things. You have to walk the walk AND talk the talk, or it doesn't add up.
If you want to be Norse in any way, religious or not, it will not be important that someone told you how to do it. YOU do it how it feels comfortable to YOU - that is the only "right" way to worship them according to this religion. Yes, there are historical presedents, but ther are more than one. In fact, there are many very different accounts. If you do not connect by leaving an offering, then that is not how you connect. Then maybe you are the kind of person that connects better with an utseita or a drumming session or by singing or guided meditation or whatever. Some indians connect with peyote. Some of us just get "connected with", whether we like it or not...some have to use peyote to "connect" with their gods.
And btw, I think of offerings exactly in the way Bates does, not in terms of submitting or what have you, but in terms of a meeting of two souls, two friend for a meal, or a gift exchange - there is historical presedence for both, and it has to do with time and geographical place which one was more suited - this is just how I personally connect, and I think you connect differently with different gods just like you connect differently with different people. Some people like to be submitted to, some respect you moe if you don't. I don't think Odin would know what to do with me if I lay down on the ground and prostrated myself before his likeness. Loki, on the other hand, wouldmaybe think it was the bees knees... If I need to borrow money, I can go to my friend Mary Ann and say "Hey, Mary Ann, can I please borrow $20?" or I can go to my mom and say "Oh, hi mom. I'm having a grwat day. How are you? Yes, it's nice out - I wish I had $20, cuz there's this cool book I saw while I was out with the kids today" (and next thing she'd say would be "Can I send you that money or buy it on the net for you?") or I could go to mu father-in-law and crawl to him on my bare, bended knees, prostrate myself before him, lower my gaze and wail "Please, most kind and mighty Sir, please, I beg you, could you lend me $20 at 14% interest until my next measly paycheque a week from now? In return I will go to Christian church and tell my children that they are dirty little females conceived in sin, and henceforth refer to them as bastards." All three would lead to the $20 dollars in my hand, but one of those options is one that I could not live with, one I think is not my style, and so, the first option is the one I would go with. The point is that the outcome is the same, but the manner of getting there and the way I would feel once I got there is different. Can you understand it in those terms?
Having said all that, I am torn between two sorts of religious experiences. I think we brought it up here before, about how you can look at the Old Faith as a philosophy just as much as a religion. And you can look at it as ancestor worshipry. I do. I think of Odin in terms of someone who was a great chief for my people, someone who once lived and added his DNA and his philosophy to the genepool and the culture, which is what has made it possible for me to be me. But then there is also a side of this religion, which is what - to me - makes it a religion rather than a philosophy, and that's the part where I have religious experiences of a nature that I cannot explain.
I think the Bible is full of good stories that explain many things, but I also think that they are not all 100% true, even though some of them probably depict real events. I think the Eddas are great stories that explain many things, some of which are not 100% "true" in terms of real events, and some of which depict real events. They still give you the essence of what it is we are supposed to be when we are at our best, and they explain how to get there faster and with our honour and dignity intact. There are stages we must all go through to reach the end goal. We don't all get it right off the bat. We're not supposed to. Think of all the things, like penicillin, that we'd not know about, if all knowledge came neatly wrapped in a box. Life is what happens while you look.
Apparently, however I connect is fine with these gods. It's not perfect - I seem to have pissed Ran off at one point (we're OK now), but even if it were not, nobody can tell me I am doing anything wrong, because there is no such thing as an AsaPope. Historical presedence is one thing, your current practise another. Historical presedense can only give you a good way to start, because some of us are more comfortable with things that feel familiar (it's kind of like how some feel weird sitting down for a meal without saying a blessing, even though they're not catholic - we've just been taught that when you sit down for supper, you're supposed to say something). But they are not rigid rules that cannot be adapted to suit you - they never were. Don't let someone tell you how to feel, especially not in religious matters. It's none of their bussiness.