I wish you woul marry me instead... You read me like a fuckin' open book. Though I must say I have bad experiences about womenrahvin said:i don't think it was directed at you in any way, except for the fact you're the one who marveled at trit having issues with women.
as far as i can interpret the exciting exchange (heh), it went something like:
- dement plays cute and asks for attention
- tritonus refuses to collaborate because she's not into making friends with girls. this could be for a score of different reasons, so i'll pick the most trite just to piss people off: she likes to see herself as more honest and straightforward than the women who compete with her in trying to get the guys
- you post that you're surprised, because, frankly, having an actual problem with an entire gender seems pretty odd
- plintus barges in, e-penis at hand. see explanation above
- i do my job and use my evil powers to stir the cauldron. people will call me names (hopefully), but i've heard them before.
Everybody are assholes.
Tritonus said:I wish you woul marry me instead... You read me like a fuckin' open book. Though I must say I have bad experiences about women
well, in africa i'd be doing something good(it sounds very hippy i know), actually helping people instead of just complaining about how many of them die, how many starve and so on, and you, speaking awsome english could, be very usefull, although the prospective of a couch sounds much better. And then you could find books for the cute african kids, so we can educate them and let them know what's going on so that they grow up and kick the bad people's ass for us. Doesn't it sound like a happy plan? So, see, you should marry me before you became ancient and creepy, so we can enjoy our happyness in binging peace to the world. And if we die killed by some rebels, aids or a hippo, well that how it was supposed to be, so let's still smile!rahvin said:what will you be doing in africa? what's more, what will i be doing there? i don't have many skills, except for my knowledge of english and an uncanny ability to - my goodness! - order the right book online. i used to work for surveillance, but i don't think stalking hippos is a promising line of business. sure, i could ride our pony, be a comfortable couch, this kind of things. still it seems harsh punishment for not jumping up to the occasion of marrying you. please consider that this is a metal forum: what would the neighbors think of us?
Yes i am indeed ^^Tritonus said:With that you mean Keyy... She's an optimist. I'st 2! YOu just don't know it...
Homo Sapiens Sapiens
King Chaos said:And no!!! I didn't mean Key, I was just making a crappy joke about how shallow and self centered I can be if you evaluate my purpose in a certain way as an example of how everyone sucks. ... I'd ask why you put 'Sapiens' twice... but I reckon is just cos you're being quirky.
On the subject of internet born relationships... I get the impresison with the track record of forum members who've dated forum members that the majority of people here actually view them possitively... is this indeed the case? And what, why, how?!?
I mean, there's so little you can know about a person until you actually meet them. It doesn't reflect very well if through net chat you can get really connected to someone when typing shit down and actually communicating in real life is soooo fucking different. For example, I rarely say funny things in real life. Here, I can sit for a few hours thinking of a witty comeback. And it gets me to thinking, you'll always read into what people say how you want to and you'll create a totally glorified image of the person subconsciously and when you meet them and there's no way they can be as awesome as you think, 'cos face it, they spend their free time on a band forum, you must just totally delude yourself to the reality of the situation and go into extremely bias subjective reality mode.
I've met 2 potential relationships off the net, and they did exactly that ^ when they met me. I wasn't charming. I wasn't playful. But they still ended the day thinking I was amazing. Not that I think for being aware of this facade I'm any better than they, as I too complimented them and said I enjoyed my time. When I didn't I felt no chemistry and didn't want to meet them ever again.
I know we've chatted about interent relationships before, but I don't think we've ever looked at the psychology of the situation... what do you people think ey? Am I being too cynical? Is this a way to get to really know people? Or is it a dating service in disguise?
It all depends on what kind of person you're. Internet based, or initialized, relationships works for some and not for the others. I, myself, actually find it harder to express my thoughts on the internet, be it through instant messaging or forum posts. First of all, you have type the sentences down, that's slow, and I usually don't reflect on what I type down anyways. Second, I use a lot of gestures and facial expressions to convey my messages, that's not exactly done over the internet. Third, it's harder to make jokes on the net, because you can't mimic, well, you can, but they won't see you. And last of all, I talk better in real life than on the net. I have about 70 of my real life buddies on my MSN and AIM, but I only talk to about 3 of them online, I just can't talk to the rest without looking at their faces.
I'm actually in an internet based relationship, but I never looked for one, nor thought that I'd need one. We started out just talking on AIM, with no intention further than chatting. That state lasted about a year, then we were in love and she agreed to move up and live with me in 3 years. It's a long wait, but it's worth it. As of now, we're better than ever.
King Chaos said:That's interesting man. Strange that you find it easier to express yourself out loud than on paper. I mean, face to face, like you said there's unspeakable amounts of non-verbal communication to help build understanding, but there's ways to evaluate that too. For instance, over the internet I could (If I wasn't so cynical about the face value of net communication) fall in love with a Japanese lady but upon a first meeting, our body language would just confuse the hell out of each other no doubt. Because non verbal communication is extremely different from culture to culture.
But the main benefit of writing things to people is you have more than enough time to calculate a response. Personally I've never had the 'spirit of the stairway' on a forum or in a messenger convo, but I get it all the time in real life. Of course, that's maybe just me.
Goodluck with the lady fellah. For me something like you described would be a gamble, making a large commitment though the seeds of your love are planted on digital soil. But if you have confidence in your judgement and can trust the person, as with time it seems you've learnt to, then I can accept the logic of the commitment.
Dark_Silence said:For me, it has always been easier to talk to people in a written way, because when you dont see the person sometimes, you dare saying much things, and it is easier to speak of feelings when written and not in front of people. Maybe because that way you actually dont see the reaction of the other.
I have many contacts on msn or icq, but I rarely speak to them, but just because we dont get to see each other often, and anyway, most of the friendships I had back in high school are broken.
@6SF: how far does your gf live from you? can you meet often?
Spirit of the Stairway is originally a french saying for when you give someone an answer or say something in the heat of the moment, and later realise there was a much better thing to say, the phrase implies it comes to you as you're leaving the house (for saying the wrong thing or saying nothing at all) via the stairs...6 Stringed Fingers said:Body language is easier to learn than spoken languages, consider that it's almost intuitive. If you really love someone, you'd take the trouble to get used to her in real life. Maybe you haven't had the experience to completely change your culture, but I have, so it might be almost natural for me to change my ways to suit someone else.
And what is the 'spirit of the stairway'?