chat, feelings, and random discussion thread

[Wolfman Von Jones]

Ha! I had forgotten all about that . Maybe if you cross my palm with silver we'll talk about the tenure .

Nick

 

[hyena]

@rahvin: wasn't an online acquaintance, i met him at a conference. the flesh-and-blood element made everything sound more realistic, i just didn't know about what. As for picking all the nutcases, I honestly have no explanation.

@nick: glad to see you again. (and sorry to hear life is not smiling at you). i concur with rahvin, don't go. and make yourself available online every now and then, i'd love to talk to you.

 

[rahvin]

@hyena: You know, that's all right, because I just realized my sentence with "on line acquaintances" in makes absolutely no sense, and even if it did it probably would not be the one I was looking for. The joys of high fever in the morning. I might try again next time I can actually string two words together.

 

[Kovenant84]

Oh noes! Nick and I on UM at the same time?

End of the world!

~kov.

 

[plintus]

For those who still remember me, and Im sure a few of you do , all I have to say is that life is like getting kicked in the taint with a size 13 (USA) steel-shanked boot. You know ? Now I think Im going to vanish again for another 5 months.

I think I know the reason - I see you in WoW almost every time I play. Crack pipe.

 

[Wolfman Von Jones]

@Plinny: I'd equate it more to a heroin needle .

@Claud: Prior comment cheerfully withdrawn, I love you too

@Rahvin: Have my children

@Kov: It's more like hell freezing over .

Nick

 

[plintus]

@Rahvin: Have my children

Oh, that can be so misunderstood

 

[GONE Ridin' Hood]

I'm feeling pretty gutted at the death of Steve Irwin The Crocodile Hunter, rest in peace man

I'm so fucking sad... . I realli liked that guy, with his funny australian accent hehe. But now we won't see any more shows with him . I send my depest regards to his wife and his recently born son (poor guy, so young and with no dad).

R.I.P Steve

 

[fireangel]

Zack:

still alive and stuff, just have a lot to do, I think around 2 DIN A 4-sheets full with lists
I meant to write you anyhow after I fulfilled one of those tasks, cuz I`ll need an opinion on a text then.
Wanna see oomph!-photos?

And where did they sell 300 Poisonblack-albums, in US or worldwide?

I met a guy in July. He lives in another country. I liked him as a person but didn't feel particularly attracted.

that should have been already enough information for your decision, only that you didn´t wanna believe yourself

And thanks for the story and the info.

I even went as far as telling him that I wish I had fallen in love with him but I hadn't (you know, honesty and all), but he reassured me telling me he wasn't head-over-heels in love either so there was no reason to worry.

and he said "I want to be very clear on one thing: you don't think we are on a romantic track, don't you?".

This actually fits nicely together:
First you tell him that there is no romantic interest, and later the whole thing gets twisted by his question...


It all sounds pretty weird. I think that on one hand, maybe some people enjoy giving out compliments and doing nice gestures, but don´t take it that seriously as maybe the receiver does, they would just enjoy playing. So maybe this guy is one of them, and when you returned the gestures, he didn´t like that because it wasn´t his game alone anymore.

On the other hand, you don´t actually need to discuss future plans with people that you are not in a serious relationship with. You can fantasize in your mind about whatever re-location and career-moves you have as backup-plans, but saying them out loud to some guy who hasn´t even really declared a committment to you was too early (and I´m not even thinking of what you haven´t told him but where up to ) I mean, you met him in July and now we have the beginning of September, and you were already re-planning your whole career

But anyhow, the whole thing had a wrong start, because you didn´t have any more interest in him than as a friend, and you felt so, but still, because of whatever he did he brought you out on thin ice. Of course he sounds like a jerk, but nevertheless, if you feel no romantic interest, then next time trust yourself and keep the people as friends and don´t get hectic

 

[rahvin]

Oh, that can be so misunderstood

 

[hyena]

@fireangel: honestly i don't think that there are only 2 states of the world, ie "i'm completely blown away by guy A and will die of anguish if i don't sleep with him in the next 24 hours" and "i want guy A to be my friend, end of the story". actually, the strongly passional response is a rarity for me (eventhough it happens every now and then), and it shouldn't be trusted anyway because these things typically go away. in this specific case, i was interested in the guy, in a let's-wait-and-see way, not in a please-marry-me-now way. then he did nice things and we had interesting discussions and i saw him again + found him more attractive than i had at first encounter, so the let's-wait-and-see thing became rather "why not give it a try?". i didn't give any importance to the fact that he didn't want to jump my bones the moment he saw me either: we're not 16, so that should not be that important. i realize now that i was wrong, but still the whole thing is quite weird.

edit: i think you're really right where your point "it wasn't his game anymore" is concerned. when he received my books, he said he was upset "because normally i see myself as the one who does the giving". right.

 

[marduk1507]

What an idiot. I mean, how can anyone act like that at his age?

 

[fireangel]

@fireangel: honestly i don't think that there are only 2 states of the world, ie "i'm completely blown away by guy A and will die of anguish if i don't sleep with him in the next 24 hours" and "i want guy A to be my friend, end of the story".

I don´t think that either, but from what you wrote, I deducted that you didn´t have romantic interest in him from the start, no matter what. I usually have the impression that if one doesn´t know quite what to think (friend or more_than_a_friend) then you actually feel this right from the start, aswell, but if you think that: "great, this person will be a good friend", it wouldn´t necessarily change anymore.

actually, the strongly passional response is a rarity for me (eventhough it happens every now and then), and it shouldn't be trusted anyway because these things typically go away. in this specific case, i was interested in the guy, in a let's-wait-and-see way, not in a please-marry-me-now way. then he did nice things and we had interesting discussions and i saw him again + found him more attractive than i had at first encounter, so the let's-wait-and-see thing became rather "why not give it a try?". i didn't give any importance to the fact that he didn't want to jump my bones the moment he saw me either: we're not 16, so that should not be that important. i realize now that i was wrong, but still the whole thing is quite weird.

Okay, now I see it more differentiated, from your description, but still the whole thing sounds rather "nice and pleasant", too lukewarm for a boy-friend. It sounds much more like a charming good friend instead (or at least he could have been that), who then turned weirdo.

edit: i think you're really right where your point "it wasn't his game anymore" is concerned. when he received my books, he said he was upset "because normally i see myself as the one who does the giving". right.

 

[hyena]

@fireangel - 1 word: sex. that's where one draws the line (well, that's where i draw the line) between mates and lovers.

 

[plintus]

@fireangel - 1 word: sex. that's where one draws the line (well, that's where i draw the line) between mates and lovers.

True enough: you can't fuck your friends. Even literally. That's a rule #2.

 

[King Chaos]

@fireangel - 1 word: sex. that's where one draws the line (well, that's where i draw the line) between mates and lovers.

Weird, when I read this I instantly thought, is it not possible to be lovers and not have sex... but it's more reasonable to question the vise-versa and say is it not possible to have sex and just be mates? I'm talking generally more than personally, but I am interested in your take on this.

 

[KitKat]

Sex is necessary in love.
Love isn't necessary in sex.
Friends rarely fuck, but it can happen. But love was, is or will be an issue in a way or another...

 

[Magrathean]

Sex without love is pointless. The only sex should be lovemaking, and that can only happen when both persons love each-other at least very much.

/ my two lipas (cents)

 

[plintus]

Sex without love is pointless. The only sex should be lovemaking, and that can only happen when both persons love each-other at least very much.

/ my two lipas (cents)

You are like so much into gomoku: how 'bout reproduction? Like you are 2 last people on Earth, and it's down to "I don't love her, so I can't fuck her", huh? I read one book once (rather boring), so there was one guy - Adam, - and, you know, he didn't have much choice.

 

[Rincewind]

So what, you should fuck her in order to save mankind?
Mankind isn't worth it anyway.
And stupidity aside, even if you had children, with who would they fuck?
Or you'd like a whole planet of idiots (which is today also almost true anyway, without need to fuck your own family).