Now that I joined this particular conversation, I want to expand my thoughts a bit (if anybody really cares):
For one, forget about the legality of marijuana for this discussion.
Pot makes me feel better when I'm sick, and there is no real proof of any pot deaths or pot leading to harder drugs, as opposed to the countless deaths due to drinking.
I always wish people were respectful, but they're not. As far as cigarette smoke, if somebody is smoking legally then I feel I have no right to ask them to stop - I have to leave. At a gig, we all know it's illegal to smoke pot, and for that matter I think smoking in many venues is illegal. I go to a bar where smoking is allowed, I deal with it. Me personally, pot smell doesn't bother me, but, if it's not allowed, it shouldn't be done. Yet, every time I'm at a gig I wish that smoker would offer me up a hit (only happened once).
I find a majority of drunks to be obnoxious. I wish all drunks were like me. I get mellow and quiet and hold up the nearest wall. I basically become a quiet loner when I drink. As far as smoking, there too I become happily mellow. As far as music is concerned, the effect pot has on listening and playing is amazing. Pot and artistic values seem to go hand in hand.
For me, it's not just enjoying Opeth more when high, but from easing tension to making a sour stomach go away, pot has other "values" to me.
Side note: the funniest thing happened to me over Christmas break (and I'm glad it happened). I've known for quite a while that my daughter smoked. I know what a stoned person looks like and how they act - what do you expect from somebody who's been doing it for almost 30 years. I knew my wife discussed smoking with my daughter and for the past year my daughter realized we knew she smoked, but she never knew I smoked. Until xmas. My wife broke the ice with her, so one night I'm in my room, and my daughter comes in with a blunt and asks me to join her. I smile, say finally, and now that burden of both my kids knowing I smoke is behind me. I never told them because they never asked. Plus, I didn't feel I'd be a responsible parent for making smoking seem Ok, even though it really is to me. My son doesn't really like smoking - I've turned him on to scorpion bowls.
I don't believe, if you've never smoked pot before, that you should start. I made that mistake 30 years ago, and I happen to like it. It's not nearly as dangerous as cigarettes or alcohol healthwise (at least not proven), but it's still a drug. My kids know how I feel. They know I like it, yet they know I wish they didn't smoke. I'm always afraid, with their whole careers in front of them, that they could get tested, etc, and have some sort of black mark on them.
Man, maybe I am a bad parent.