Four of my Chinese friends live off campus and I'm interested in one of them (Lisa). Earlier in the year, we discussed going to some parties together, but haven't been able to set anything up and now it's even more difficult, because she lost her phone, so my only way to get ahold of her is to stop by her house unannounced and hope she's there. This isn't particularly a problem because all four of the girls in the house like me and have invited me to stop by any time, but I still don't like just dropping by without calling ahead.
Anyway, another Chinese friend on campus was telling me that the four of them were telling her that they were upset that I hadn't been dropping by very often, so I decided to stop by last night and then see if Lisa would be interested in coming to my brother's party with me. When I got there, I had to knock on the door like five times before Madoka, a Japanese girl, answered the door. This surprised me, because I wasn't expecting to see her there. Anyway the place was full of Chinese, Japanese and Korean exchange students having a party, which I did not no about and had not been invited to. After a minute or so, Lisa finally acknowledged that I was there and just said "oh Matt! It's BingBing's birthday!" and then went to get BingBing who seemed more excited to see me than Lisa did.
I felt like a total dick, because I just crashed this girl's birthday party, didn't even realize they were having a party, I had basically just stopped by with the intention of bringing her housemate to a different party, and of course I stood out like a sore thumb, because I was the only white guy there.
Then BingBing gave me cake and started cooking dumplings for me, which I also felt bad about, because she basically just abandoned her own birthday party to cook for me, even though I wasn't planning on staying. So I called my brother to tell him that I'd be late because I was at the Chinese girls' house and ate dumplings with BingBing in the kitchen while everyone else (including Lisa) was in two other rooms. The other two housemates, Karen and Hejie didn't realize I was there until later, and they both seemed more excited to see me than Lisa did, so hopefully Lisa's still just down about losing her phone.
Fortunately, it turned out to be a good thing that I'd shown up, because most of the people had walked there and the weather had since become worse, so I gave some people rides back to their dorms. However, I barely got to see or speak to Lisa the whole time I was there and when I finally got to my brother's party (almost two hours late) I was the first and only person to show up.
