The Whining and Bitching Thread
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Xorv
Drug the Priest
well I'm not going to ask you anything about my former relationship since that is pointless. I'm just going to ask you one thing. What kind of man do women really want? and was I right about what I mentioned earlier? (not apologizing for sexual desires, etc, it's up there ^ previous page though)
V.V.V.V.V.
Houses Ov Mercury
Xorv
Drug the Priest
viewerfromnihil
Vein-Marbled Tower
A major problem that women have is that they either don't know what they want or that they don't want what they think that they want. I'm not even going to go into that whole mess, because you probably already get the idea.
At the core, most intelligent women want the following in some form:
I hate talking on the phone, and have always preferred having any type of important or intimate conversations in person. It's just much better, and that could be part of why you're perceived as distant. I'm not sure exactly what the situation is. I assume that she doesn't live too far from you, so sometimes you should just call or text and say you're going to come by if she's okay with that, and then talk about whatever you were going to talk about on the phone. It seems like things go better for you in person, and I don't think that she'll have a problem with a guy who comes to see her and talk to her. Just remember to listen to her. You can also make your plans in person. I know that's something that I'd like to see more guys do.
Hopefully that helps.
At the core, most intelligent women want the following in some form:
- A guy who is loyal and can be depended upon in any situation, but won't just try to lead her by the hand. You don't have to be a puppy dog, but you need to be there when she needs you.
- A guy who doesn't pretend to be someone that he isn't. You need to be honest about the person that you are. If you turn out to be someone else, she'll wonder what happened to the man that she loved.
- A guy who lets her be herself. Don't have unrealistic expectations. Much like how you need to be honest about who you are, you need to give her the space to be herself.
- A guy who knows how to get close. Lack of physical intimacy at any time of an established relationship isn't a good thing. She most likely wants you and wants you to want her, and you have to act upon this and make time to do so.
- A guy who knows how to be corrected, and also knows how to correct her with grace. Disputes don't need to become arguments, so you have to be willing to listen and understand.
I hate talking on the phone, and have always preferred having any type of important or intimate conversations in person. It's just much better, and that could be part of why you're perceived as distant. I'm not sure exactly what the situation is. I assume that she doesn't live too far from you, so sometimes you should just call or text and say you're going to come by if she's okay with that, and then talk about whatever you were going to talk about on the phone. It seems like things go better for you in person, and I don't think that she'll have a problem with a guy who comes to see her and talk to her. Just remember to listen to her. You can also make your plans in person. I know that's something that I'd like to see more guys do.
Hopefully that helps.
BlackMetalWhiteGuy
Manly Man!
I know exactly what you mean. I easily adjusted to being single again because I don't miss my ex, but even after two years I've still never re-adapted to not having sex.
It's crazy how much having a girlfriend re-defined the way I live my life though. Before I had one, I used to always concentrate on getting a girlfriend and I was convinced that sex wasn't important, but now having sex again is all that I can really think about, but finding a new girlfriend isn't a priority.
V.V.V.V.V.
Houses Ov Mercury
viewerfromnihil
Vein-Marbled Tower
MasterOLightning
Optimator
V.V.V.V.V.
Houses Ov Mercury
Belligerent
Greekus Urungus
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
At this point I don't care which, whether I get my cake and/or eat it too.
Xorv
Drug the Priest
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
Read Sigmund Freud. The highest pleasurable state any person experience becomes the standard to which they strive. For those who never had so high an experience, they feel less an urge to experience it.
That is why when one enters a first relationship, he is thankful just for the affection of a significant other, but when it leads to sex, that becomes a higher goal by virtue of its stronger sensation than mere affection.
That is why when one enters a first relationship, he is thankful just for the affection of a significant other, but when it leads to sex, that becomes a higher goal by virtue of its stronger sensation than mere affection.
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
It's our biology telling us that our true purpose is to procreate, thus the physical sensations of pleasure increase the closer you come to living out that purpose. That's the same reason being in love with a person feels better than being in love with knowledge. You and I can try, as I often do, to rationalize that wisdom is the best goal, but the physical deprivations of love still regularly attack our psyche.
As for wisdom itself, it indirectly supports my biological purpose by giving me the knowledge to survive in the world and understand it.
As for wisdom itself, it indirectly supports my biological purpose by giving me the knowledge to survive in the world and understand it.
