King Richard
Hello there
It takes an extreme amount of self control to not make physical advances toward a girl who has a boyfriend? Sounds like the "she was asking for it" argument pertaining to rapists. Yours is an old fashioned way of thinking and I can see where you're coming from. I agree that we're all a bunch of animals and that integrated straight male-female combat units in the military are a terrible idea, but as far as basic friendships are concerned social rules > instincts.
That wasn't quite my point. I was leaning more towards horny drunk guys shouldn't be running around and sleeping in close quarters with a chick who is also drunk/passed out. I'm not saying you deserved it at all, and I'm not trying to use that "she was asking for it" argument either. All I'm saying is you put yourself in that position with a horny drunk guy apparently eying you like a hawk and who decided to act on his desires.
Regarding your last comment about social rules > instincts: ask your friend about that. Shit like what happened to you happens all the time. Clearly I'm not saying it's right, but according to what you've expressed so far, you apparently weren't aware that such a thing could happen to you and that your friends aren't the type to do something like that.
I'll take the risk. It was pretty much nothing and I've already all but forgotten it ever happened, even if it did ruin my weekend a little bit.
As far as relationships and rules etc we operate under the "you're gonna do what you're gonna do" mindset. I've dated possessive people before and I always cheated on them simply because they were so possessive. I could cheat easily now, but I have no desire or interest to do so.
k, whatever works for you.