The Whining and Bitching Thread

[King Richard]

It takes an extreme amount of self control to not make physical advances toward a girl who has a boyfriend? Sounds like the "she was asking for it" argument pertaining to rapists. Yours is an old fashioned way of thinking and I can see where you're coming from. I agree that we're all a bunch of animals and that integrated straight male-female combat units in the military are a terrible idea, but as far as basic friendships are concerned social rules > instincts.

That wasn't quite my point. I was leaning more towards horny drunk guys shouldn't be running around and sleeping in close quarters with a chick who is also drunk/passed out. I'm not saying you deserved it at all, and I'm not trying to use that "she was asking for it" argument either. All I'm saying is you put yourself in that position with a horny drunk guy apparently eying you like a hawk and who decided to act on his desires.

Regarding your last comment about social rules > instincts: ask your friend about that. Shit like what happened to you happens all the time. Clearly I'm not saying it's right, but according to what you've expressed so far, you apparently weren't aware that such a thing could happen to you and that your friends aren't the type to do something like that.

I'll take the risk. It was pretty much nothing and I've already all but forgotten it ever happened, even if it did ruin my weekend a little bit.

As far as relationships and rules etc we operate under the "you're gonna do what you're gonna do" mindset. I've dated possessive people before and I always cheated on them simply because they were so possessive. I could cheat easily now, but I have no desire or interest to do so.

k, whatever works for you.

 

[Dak]

I agree with KD 100% on this. Single (and usually "taken") guys are not friends with girls who are hot unless they want to fuck them.

 

[damnromulans]

Hey hey. Maybe some of my friends like me because I'm cool and/or fun.

 

[The Ozzman]

I agree with KD 100% on this. Single (and usually "taken") guys are not friends with girls who are hot unless they want to fuck them.

or if they have a friend who happens to be more attractive than them

 

[Dak]

or if they have a friend who happens to be more attractive than them

Same general concept applies.

 

[waif]

I have a hard time believing that most friendships between a guy and a girl are ever "pure" in the mind of the guy, even if he's not exactly consciously aware of it.

This. Guys think about sex so much that by the time they've talked to any female other than their mother for more than two minutes they've thought about having sex with her an average of 3.6 times, even if she's completely hideous and they'd never actually do it. That said, my opinion is that Krampus shouldn't fucking worry about it.

 

[Cythraul]

Guys think about sex so much that by the time they've talked to any female other than their mother for more than two minutes they've thought about having sex with her an average of 3.6 times

I think this statement has implications that you probably didn't intend, brah.

 

[damnromulans]

For once I agree with King Dick about something. Nothing excuses that dude's behavior, but girls really have got to be careful about the kinds of situations they put themselves in with guys. I have a hard time believing that most friendships between a guy and a girl are ever "pure" in the mind of the guy, even if he's not exactly consciously aware of it. I've had to bring girls back down to Earth about this sort of thing before. Don't ever idealize males or your relationships with them.

On a related note, isn't it awkward now to be fully aware that your friend is horny over you? I have had, ahem, relations with friends before, and even if you go on having a relatively normal friendship you always have this awkward thought like "Hey, remember that one time?"

Yes, it's very fucking awkward and we can never be normal friends again. It's one thing to be mutually attracted to each other but never speak of it, and another entirely to have had an incident.

Also I am not completely oblivious to the massive tensions that exist between males and females FYI (Y being everyone not just Cythraul) and I don't idealize dudes. I suppose I have been a bit naive in thinking that since I'm not that great looking/off the market/talk about Man-Purse constantly/make efforts not to be flirtatious with my own friends it would be obvious to everyone that there is no point in making moves, but yeah.

Fuck I need more girlfriends. Why aren't there more cool chicks around? My only close girlfriend in my immediate town works the complete opposite shifts to me (nights and weekends).

 

[Cythraul]

I'm not that great looking

You can't be serious about this. I don't know if you're fishing for compliments or not, but all I'm going to say is, have you ever looked at yourself in a mirror before?

 

[King Richard]

Wow, am I in the fucking twilight zone or something? No one ever agrees with me.

 

[damnromulans]

You can't be serious about this. I don't know if you're fishing for compliments or not, but all I'm going to say is, have you ever looked at yourself in a mirror before?

I'm not fishing. I'm not ugly by any means and I'm not a knockout. But Japanese girls in their 20s in big cities in Japan are SIZZLIN' - the vast majority are slim, perfectly groomed, and much less likely to cop attitude/burp than me

edit: King Drunkard, did I not make a post a while back about how you are making tons of sense lately?

 

[King Richard]

Well I asked you what exactly that meant but you never answered me so I wasn't quite sure. You can elaborate now if you want.

 

[damnromulans]

I used to think a lot of the things you said were stupid and/or wrong, but recently our opinions are aligned like the Sun and the Moon and I can learn from your male wisdom.

 

[King Richard]

Indeed. I like to keep things real.

 

[Dak]

Former Marines are full of zen-like wisdom, the vessel just must be open to receive.


lololololol

 

[damnromulans]

It's crazy torrential downpouring here and it's been really windy all day. I kind of want to go out and roll around in the mud like a savage, but I can't. I got rained on a little during my lunch trek and now my hair looks like crap.

 

[Saparmurat_Niyazov]

Just stop combing and washing it. Does Korean hair twist into dreadlocks?

 

[damnromulans]

Not on its own, you have to use TONS and TONS of wax. I've looked into it when I was young and mallgoth.

 

[Chanakya]

I am whining and bitching about the fact that I can't really do much about this girl that I have a massive crush on. This is compounded by the fact that she is quite into me as well. Damn it.

 

[waif]

I think this statement has implications that you probably didn't intend, brah.

Such as? I exclude all female relatives, but it does apply to me yes. Doesn't mean a guy would go through with it by any means, just that the thought is gonna cross his mind.

I am whining and bitching about the fact that I can't really do much about this girl that I have a massive crush on. This is compounded by the fact that she is quite into me as well. Damn it.

Dude, that sounds really shitty. What's the situation?