I have no problem finding people to jam with, I just: (1. Usually don't have the time (2. When I do have the time, I don't care enough to play with other people. I also haven't put any effort into writing songs since my last death metal band, like 2 years ago. I'll come up with some annoying sounding doodles that I get a kick out of, but nothing that I feel like taking outside of my own bubble. I hate showing other people stuff that I write because I find myself actually caring about their opinions, which, in my honest opinion, has a negative affect on the material.
I was delighted about some opinions the other day though. The band that I'm in, Black Orifice - though we aren't really active or practicing -, put out a few recordings which I gave to some friends. Back to the point, a few people of whom I did not give the music to had downloaded it from our FB page and really dug the stuff. I was shocked when they told me that they "jammed" to it because our typical listener response is, "It sounds interesting, sort of like Dream Theater but way faster and weirder sound", meaning, "I'm never going to listen to it again". Sadly, they, as well as all of the others that I have shown, thought that the 3 songs that incorporated vocals needed for the vocals to either be growled or not have them at all. Whatever, I should know better than to think that anybody except for my buddy I jam with and me could actually dig atonal singing.