I apologize for being so snappy. Your post probably reminded me of the frustration I have with my mother's perception of me. I still have stuff to figure out, but she turns little things into a total crisis and blows up on me because unless I make some kind of gigantic external change like getting a college degree, I'm still the drug-abusing, do-nothing on the inside. I yelled at her this morning and apologized, and I wanted to explain to her that she was overreacting, but she told me she didn't want to be lectured.