UM men: how does being into metal affect you dating life?

[ohiogrinder]

Might as well have been me talking here.

yeah, and I agree. the girl I'm with I'm still unsure if she's "the one". but time will tell.

 

[TylerTheNuke]

I'm not looking for a girlfriend...but often with my female friends there is an attraction between us (physically, personality etc). Is it normal/common to be 'closer' with all your female friends in that regard? It just seems like I can't be friends with a girl without having to think about that. However, I find my interest fades over time just like with you. I'm not complaining or anything but probably the reason it happens to me, is because I don't just spontaneously befriend someone, I generally look for someone who has similar interests as I do which is usually hard to come by...and of course I'm sure that results in a mutual attraction when I do find someone.

Yeah, I'm attracted to all of my female friends, but I'm just not intrested in dating or sex. It is like once I am friends, it is good enough. It is good enough, really. I mean, a friendship is a relationship too. I do have a sex drive, don't get me wrong, I just don't feel any desire to act on it with my friends. Mabye I need to like skip friendship and just jump right in?

 

[The Ozzman]

If you feel attracted to your female friends and want to have sex, you aren't really friends.

 

[Hell Awaits Us All]

Well pretty much. Believe me, I have tried on numerous occasions to rectify this with girls that I really was interested in. However they all lead to dead ends before anything could really begin. One turned me down flatly after I had been friends with her for a couple of years and another one, last summer, didn't go anywhere because I felt much the same as I described in my previous post. That is, my desire to have an actual relationship (and thus, in my naive mind, relieving my loneliness) was stronger than my desire for the girl herself. It took me awhile to figure out this truth but once I did I decided that it was not fair to the girl to be doing this for the wrong reasons, not to mention it wouldn't be fair to myself.

keep trying man, you may fail a 100 times but you'll eventually find someone you like and who is right for you

this is what I need to do and I think it's what alot of people here really need to do if they wish to get over their "girl problems". Get out there, out of your comfort zone, go to social gatherings, meet as many girls as you can and try to find a G/F, eventually you will succeed. Experience is the best teacher

until you can muster up the balls to consistently talk to girls (and not that "nice guy" bullshit) and consistently attempt to date girls, you are never going to progress at all.

And this is what I need to do, I am learning from the mistakes I have made in the past.

 

[Death Aflame]

keep trying man, you may fail a 100 times but you'll eventually find someone you like and who is right for you

this is what I need to do and I think it's what alot of people here really need to do if they wish to get over their "girl problems". Get out there, out of your comfort zone, go to social gatherings, meet as many girls as you can and try to find a G/F, eventually you will succeed. Experience is the best teacher

until you can muster up the balls to consistently talk to girls (and not that "nice guy" bullshit) and consistently attempt to date girls, you are never going to progress at all.

And this is what I need to do, I am learning from the mistakes I have made in the past.

I have no qualms talking with girls at all. And I do get out 'there' often, it's just nothing ever seems to materialize. Moreover, I am not the type of person to try and get the numbers from every girl in a room at a party. I prefer to stand back and observe until I see someone that genuinely interests me, then I'll go try to talk with her and get to know her.

Of course this hasn't really worked with me in the past, obviously, but I figure it's just because I haven't met the right ones yet. Thanks for the advice anyways though.

 

[Xorv]

I have a feeling if this were UltimateHip-Hop we wouldn't be crowded around here talking about our girl problems. Just a feeling, though.

 

[Rabid Headbanger]

I have a feeling if this were UltimateHip-Hop we wouldn't be crowded around here talking about our girl problems. Just a feeling, though.

And we'd be watching MTV, getting brainwashed by brands, and drooling if are heads weren't above level with the ground.

Thankfully metal attracts the intelligent, the ones who know whats what, and think for themselves, instead of talking about how much money we have and how many whores we've banged.

(NOTE! Theres ONE intelligent hip hop group... Rage Against The Machine)

 

[Xorv]

And we'd be watching MTV, getting brainwashed by brands, and drooling if are heads weren't above level with the ground.

Thankfully metal attracts the intelligent, the ones who know whats what, and think for themselves, instead of talking about how much money we have and how many whores we've banged.

(NOTE! Theres ONE intelligent hip hop group... Rage Against The Machine)

True, but atleast we'd be getting some pussy.

 

[Rabid Headbanger]

True, but atleast we'd be getting some pussy.

Choose, being free or getting shallow physical gratification?

 

[Xorv]

getting shallow physical gratification, and drugs.

 

[Hell Awaits Us All]

And we'd be watching MTV, getting brainwashed by brands, and drooling if are heads weren't above level with the ground.

Thankfully metal attracts the intelligent, the ones who know whats what, and think for themselves, instead of talking about how much money we have and how many whores we've banged.

(NOTE! Theres ONE intelligent hip hop group... Rage Against The Machine)

are you really this fucking stupid? do you really thinks (pop) rap on mtv represents what hip hop is about?

this is real hip hop, idiot

wu tang - better tommorow

Yo, this goes for all my brothers and sisters locked down
For all my peoples incarcerated, for those who ain't make it

Yo, in the housing, thousands seen early graves
Victims of wordly ways, memories stays engraved
All my live brothers, is locked down with high numbers
The young hunger, blind to these lies, they die younger
In this New World the Order slaughter men, women, and children
Ten feet gates surround the building keep us sealed in
The projects, lifeless like a vietnam vet
Constant war, sever threats of enemy conquest
Crooked cops comb my building complex that's in the rumble
Streets are like a jungle, can't let my cypher crumble
Vivid thoughts, Devils resort to trick knowledge
They kick garbage, lust for chicks and quick dollars
I know the pain the game bring, I did the same thing
Spaced out in the staircase, performing a sting
It's hard to keep control, I bless those who seek a scroll
Trying to reach a whole nation and break the sleeper hold
Not a role model, I walk a hard road to follow
I sold bottles of sorrow then chose poems and novels
The gospel was told, some souls it swallowed whole
Mentally they fold, and they eventually sold
their life and times, deadly like the virus design
but too, minute to dilute, the scientist mind

You can't party your life away
Drink your life away
Smoke your life away
Fuck your life away
Dream your life away
Scheme your life away
Cause your seeds grow up the same way

[Masta Killa]
A voice cries from the wilderness of the North
A representation of the families that lost one
all victims of incarceration
Or other divisions of the family structure
Youths are injected with serums that leads
to skin irritations, babies being born with
disfigurations, experimentations
On their faces there bear world relations
of mothers that carry the pain
of blood stained streets where sisters mourn and wail
Fifth brothers been slain from hails of gun fire
It lightly begins to rain screams of terror
are hidden by the passing trains
This can't be little Hussein, his uncle cried
As he drops to his nephew's side, holding his cane
Just give me a name, of who has inflicted this
bitter sickness, and left us to witness

[U-God]
Yeah, yo
Curses from war, innocent blood spills for days
Soothe in godly ways, hands, solemn in praise
Tree of life, more precious than Wu is golden game
The wise self flourish inherit, Halls of Fame
Crime visions in my blood got me, locked in prison
While we die hard living people whine about religion, vision
Blow, spin, and sin and killing what's revealing
It's a never ending battle with no ending or beginning, listen
Zero process, progress, become the hunted
America's most wanted, good life flaunted, want it
Some love the speed, some satisfy a need
Some want to be down, young gun seed, jungle breed
The strong must feed, someone die, someone bleed
One flew astray, and then caught my little seed
Can it be, the ice have us trife life, made me grab the knife
The righteous man would be within these stripes pipes
Take in my energy, breath and know the rest
Cause the good die young and the hard die best

You can't party your life away
Drink your life away
Smoke your life away
Fuck your life away
Dream your life away
Scheme your life away
Cause your seeds grow up the same way
Cause your seeds grow up the same way
Cause your seeds grow up the same way

[RZA]
Y'all bitches love dances, and pulling down your pants
while your man's on tour, your spending up his advances
Your friends ain't shit, all they do is drink, smoke, and suck dick
The whole projects is trapped in stench
You either high school drop-outs, one to three cop-outs
Fifteen years old, shorty ass and top out
Ninety-nine cent beer drinking pussy stinking
Fucking so much your ass and titties start shrinking
New World Order slave trade, minimum wage, Medicaid
Can a devil fool a Muslim nowadays
Inside my lab, I'm going mad
Took two drags off the blunts, and started breaking down the flag
The blue is for the Crips, the red is for the Bloods
The whites for the cops, and the stars come from the clubs
or the slugs that ignites, through the night, by the dawn
Early light, why is sons fighting for the stripe

[Method Man]
As we dwell through this concrete hell, calling it home
Mama say, take your time young man and build your own
Don't wind up like your old dad
Still searching for them glory days he never had
So many bad want to scheme for American dream, no more kings
The cash rule everything now, we going down
These babies looking up to us, it's up to us
The Million Man March MC's, get on the bus
But envy, greed, lust, and hate, separate
Though the devil mind state blood kin cannot relate
No longer, brothers, we unstable
Like Kane when he slew Abel, killing each other

You can't party your life away
Drink your life away
Smoke your life away
Fuck your life away
Dream your life away
Scheme your life away
Cause your seeds grow up the same way
Cause your seeds grow up the same way
Cause your seeds grow up the same way

 

[Rabid Headbanger]

are you really this fucking stupid? do you really thinks (pop) rap on mtv represents what hip hop is about?

How many fuckers do you meet in real life that think this way and listen to hip-hop?

 

[Hell Awaits Us All]

How many fuckers do you meet in real life that think this way and listen to hip-hop?

I meet many idiots who think this way and listen to hip pop, a hideous hybrid of 99% bubblegum pop music and maybe 1% hip hop.

 

[ohiogrinder]

I have a feeling if this were UltimateHip-Hop we wouldn't be crowded around here talking about our girl problems. Just a feeling, though.

girls love my pals or guys who act like them. thats why.

 

[BlackMetalTyrant]

My problem is Im extremely uncompromisng and honest when it comes to my musical taste. I'll ask a girl, what she listens to, and the usual reply is "oh, anything but country" or "mostly hip hop" or "anything but metal, it gives me a headache", and my reply is "I like death and black metal and shit like that". I have met a few girls that like metal, but usually the like certain bands just because the singer is "hot".

 

[BlackMetalTyrant]

My problem is Im extremely uncompromisng and honest when it comes to my musical taste. I'll ask a girl, what she listens to, and the usual reply is "oh, anything but country" or "mostly hip hop" or "anything but metal, it gives me a headache", and my reply is "I like death and black metal and shit like that". I have met a few girls that like metal, but usually they like certain bands just because the singer is "hot".

 

[Rabid Headbanger]

My problem is Im extremely uncompromisng and honest when it comes to my musical taste. I'll ask a girl, what she listens to, and the usual reply is "oh, anything but country" or "mostly hip hop" or "anything but metal, it gives me a headache", and my reply is "I like death and black metal and shit like that". I have met a few girls that like metal, but usually the like certain bands just because the singer is "hot".

You double posted...


The worst is when they say "everything". Then it's time for you to dig out a darkthrone demo tape and say "Well, you did say everything!"

It's the worst when they SAY metal but they MEAN atreyu and shit like that... :zombie:

 

[Rabid Headbanger]

I meet many idiots who think this way and listen to hip pop, a hideous hybrid of 99% bubblegum pop music and maybe 1% hip hop.

It's impossible to find intelligent people these days... thier even taking over metal (*COUGH* mallcore *COUGH*)... POP MUST DIE!!

I did say I do like some hip-hop though. Rage Against The Machine counts... right?

 

[TylerTheNuke]

If you feel attracted to your female friends and want to have sex, you aren't really friends.

So then you feel the same, that it is better to just jump in to a romantic relationship then to make friends? The thing is, though, plenty of other people progress from friends to lovers after they've known each other as friends from years, so I don't know if what you said is true, but I do agree that I don't really want to have sex with my friends.

 

[The Ozzman]

So then you feel the same, that it is better to just jump in to a romantic relationship then to make friends? The thing is, though, plenty of other people progress from friends to lovers after they've known each other as friends from years, so I don't know if what you said is true, but I do agree that I don't really want to have sex with my friends.

Well, I've been attracted to girls before and I have learned about all of their idiosyncrasies to never want to attempt to breed with them, so they become my friend or an acquaintance.