The Whining and Bitching Thread

Shits tough to deal with, man. My mom is bipolar and even though she's a pain in the ass with the mood swings and such, I've distanced myself over the years, I'm really just a tenant since I moved in there. At least she's dating a normal guy for once. Granted he's a stoner without a job, dumb as a rock, but the last guy was a psycho minor mobster who freaked out when they broke up and started stalking my brother telling people he was gonna kill him because it was his fault. This was awhile back and got taken care of though, so my life has been charmingly less drama-filled the past year or so aside from the third direct-family death in the past five years.

I've had a really, really weird life, with weird parents, who have weird associates. Y'all think I'm crazy? I'm harmless and weird, these motherfuckers thrive on drama. I've got some stories when I'm more comfortable.
 
Jimmy, you are living the life of a comedian. Clearly you are destined for greatness. I'm sure you have already heard Louis C.K. talk about his early career and how he sat in his car crying and contemplating suicide after years of failure.
 
I'm so fucking stressed financially. I have been trying my absolute hardest for a job and no luck. My grandpa and mom help but there's a limit and my pride prevents me from accepting much. My chick is not helpful lately, I think she spends money on weed instead of bills. My uncle lives with my grandpa and abuses that by drinking or snorting every dollar he can away. Its like I'm the only adult besides mom and Pa. Im fighting the urge to start drug dealing again. Its a dumb idea I know, but as screwed as me and my family are I don't know what to do right now.
 
I have Social Anxiety (which is pretty much just another word for AvPD) and minor Agoraphobia, and really, the only way to treat it is to push your boundaries. Cognitive therapy (and sometimes meds) works too, but the only true treatment is to practice being social. I'm not saying you should force him to go outside, but if he stays inside all the time he's not going to improve at all. I obviously don't know the whole situation, and I don't know what you've tried so far, but see if you can find him some sort of anxiety support group (a lot of them are free), if you haven't already. It can really help to be around people with the same problem.

I still have a lot of progress to make, myself. Anxiety is the worst.
 
I think i just might also have AVDP, social anxiety or whatever it's called. I don't like meeting or socializing with new people ... and it's weird, i don't remember being like this when i was younger. It seems to be getting worse with age. :(

I doubt it. Nobody likes talking to new people, but there's a big difference between being shy, and feeling like you're going to die because you're around people.
 
I doubt it. Nobody likes talking to new people, but there's a big difference between being shy, and feeling like you're going to die because you're around people.

I wouldn't necessarily say i'm shy. Do i qualify if i can't stand being around anyone outside of my very small circle of friends? I get very uncomfortable and stressed out about the smallest fucking things during and after i'm around most other people.
 
This seems like the appropriate thread to post in. Keep in mind I'm still pretty drunk from the night before.

Things went really south back in October. For starters, at the beginning of the month, my brother decides he's really hungry at about 5 AM and asks me to drive him about 15 minutes away to pick up food. I had stopped drinking hours before and felt completely fine to drive. Apparently the police thought otherwise, as they stopped me 5 blocks from my house on the way back for "not yielding sufficiently" (I live in a small town with a lot of bored, eager officers). In spite of doing fine on the field sobriety test, I stupidly consented to a breathalyzer test and got myself a DUI. One hilarious sidenote about this story is us getting the truck back and finding that the pizza inside had about 4 slices missing. Apparently the towing company was resourceful in not wasting food.

Two days later, I'm having a cigarette outside at about 10 AM. Two cops stroll up my driveway, one being the testosterone-overdosed asshole that arrested me, asking to see my mother. I ask them what it's for, and I'm told that they can't say. They then ask to search my house to see if she's there (she was at work), and when they said that they didn't have a warrant, I more or less told them to go fuck themselves. I'm fuming for two hours, thinking it's simple harassment (this is the same department that stopped my brother a couple of weeks ago for no reason, just to make sure that I wasn't driving, in spite of the fact that the vehicle I was driving when I was arrested wasn't even mine), and angrily inform my mother that the cops were asking about her when she gets home. When I tell her this, her face turns sheet white and she immediately tells me that she has to go to the station.

She is absent for a few hours, during which my girlfriend comes to get me and my brother to go get his truck out of the impound lot. We leave separately, go to the store to get things for dinner, and pull up to my house, which is surrounded by police vehicles. I now can't go in my house because it's being torn apart by federal agents. Apparently my mother had a crippling opiate addiction that neither my brother or I knew about (fifty 10 mg Vicodin a day) and resorted to some serious theft in order to support it. She goes to a nice rehabilitation facility for a month and decides to quit everything, even cigarettes (she's still doing amazing), but is potentially facing a 4 year sentence in department of corrections. My brother just moved out, so that leaves me to take care of a house and three dogs. I'm a liberal arts student with an appropriately shitty LAS student job, so even with getting a second one, which I have lined up, things will be tough. So much for completing my two degrees this year.

What I'm basically saying is that I probably won't be able to make it to MDF this year.
 
My brother and his girlfriend gave my mom a coffee cup which said "World's greatest grandma" for Christmas present, and at that same moment my heart sank. Apart from my brother dying this feels like the worst thing that could happen for some reason. I hate major life changes, I don't like things that are different.
 
(No shit Sherlock moment and of course paling into comparison to some of the other shit on this thread...)

...but I hate that if you wanna break 50k you've pretty well gotta go to the city. I'm currently commuting from the NW to N side of Atlanta and spending just under 3 hours a day driving. I could probably get a better gig in the burbs with a master's, but catch 22 I don't have time to get a master's with my commute. I could move closer to work, but then I'd be away from family/friends and have to pay double rent (currently rooming with my brother and splitting rent to our parents) and don't see myself putting up with another roommate (in another house) nor living in an apartment. I could take the bus to the city and have an even longer commute than I do now and still be unable to get the masters AND have to deal with all the shit of the city... So I pretty much have to find a comparable paying job closer to home (not easy), put a year or so in to get comfortable enough with the gig before starting a masters, then do the masters. Would love to grab a cushy job making a bit more and close to home and just stop all ambition past that point.
 
:yow: If you're taking that much vicodin, you might as well buy Heroin instead. Better bang for the buck... but that's irrelevant.

Hope things work out for you. Make sure you don't get another DUI, the 2nd and 3rd ones are when you really get fucked.
Haha. I was thinking the same thing. Smack>pills, but that equation is suited for heavy drug users anyway. D_T does not condone drug use, but condones doing them safely if you do, and very strongly supports money saving addiction techniques. But I quit the consistent drug use, so I say do that as well. They're bad. But fun. But bad. But that's a lot of Vics. Holy fuck. $10-$20 of smack would get the same result on one shot for multiple hours. Weird people are weird