The Whining and Bitching Thread

Except that my attraction to her isn't physical in nature (I mean, I am physically attracted to her, but that's not all it is); I genuinely like her, and I can't think of why I should. I wonder if it's that we have so little in common that makes me like her; I had a thought about this earlier and came up with a possible explanation, but I've forgotten it...

As far as reproductive value goes...I've heard some cultures, including Asian ones, view long hair on men as a sign of virility. It would be nice if she shared this view...
 
Well, generally speaking, it's a feeling of character flaw. All of those things that someone else is are things that you'd sometimes like to be. Kind of like in "Fight Club". If you're a manly dude, low on emotion, tough guy, etc, you would most likely be happier with someone who is emotional, girly, nice...because it rounds you out.

You won't want someone just like yourself because you are already you, and you need those missing ingredients to make yourself 'whole'. Much like Aristophanes tale in the Symposium. We are looking for our other half, which cannot be found in something exactly like ourselves. The whole 'opposites attract' thing is completely true.

Look at it like a diagram of a person. On the outside is you, whatever it is that makes you you. Personality, looks, etc. Then under that is another layer completely opposite of you. Then under that is your core, which is the same as the outside. Outside and core is you, but there's that middles piece that you really are not, but sometimes need to be. The only way to be that and fill that middle section is with someone opposing your core. Meh...You get that idea.

I decided to go middle ground. Shortly epic post. You're intelligent enough to not have to explain myself more, but if you have questions about these thoughts, that'd be easier.
 
No, I completely understand what you're saying. I don't think that's really the whole story, but it's worth thinking about.
 
Hell, it's also a challenge. You could easily impress someone like yourself. But let one of us ugly, grungy metal dudes try to impress Scarlett Johansson. Would take some work.
 
It's really, really hard for me to explain how to do that. Everyone I know hates how well I can get anyone to like me. It's something I do naturally. It's not 'cause I'm gorgeous, I just always know what to say and when to say it.
 
divine_torture said:
It's really, really hard for me to explain how to do that. Everyone I know hates how well I can get anyone to like me. It's something I do naturally. It's not 'cause I'm gorgeous, I just always know what to say and when to say it.
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I wasn't really asking for advice...no offense, but I wouldn't generally ask for advice from someone with so many massive problems in his life.

cookiecutter said:
WAIF you shouldn't analyze it so much and either ask her out if she seems interested or move on if she doesn't.
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As I explained, I analyze everything I do. I think it's important to understand myself.
 
Nah, I'm getting rid of my computer soon. Apparently S.O. laws also include software installed for monitoring computer use. I'd rather not risk jail because I checked my friggin' email, ya know?
 
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