Susperia said:
Anyway, Speed: That's nice that you still open doors for others. I always say thank you when someone does that for me.
I think that's great, and I still do that. Because I was raised that way. And I owe my parents my upbringing.
But.....I can't tell you how many times that I do open the door for a woman or an older senior (man included), and do not even receive a simple and courteous "Thank you!" Now.....that's not what I'm looking for.....but respect and courtesy offered should result in respect and courtesy offered back.
Or, I can take it the other way. Some women actually expect the door to be held for them. And then when the man makes this courtesy gesture.....he's givin a dirty look. As if she is saying....."How dare you!" Especially in corporate settings. Where posturing and 'corporate career management' take precedent over simple common courtesy. Especially amongst women in the work force.
Sometimes, I get in a situation like this.....and I have to decide whether or not I'm going to be the gentleman. But I always give in to my upbringing and hold the door anyway.....whether I receive the glance of appreciation or not. I think most males are brought up that way anyhow. Whether they're a little older or still in their teens, I'd like to think that most men's first instinct is to be repsectful of women.
I rememeber years ago Kurt Russell saying that men and women are equal in the way that they are made and the roles that they play. Women are the head of the family and men are the head of the house. The women are masters when it comes to the rearing of the children, and the man is the provider. If each wants power, then each has to play this role. Especially a woman. But when she acts like a man, she loses her power and dimishes her standing. Again, this is in traditional settings, but there's a lot of truth to that statement. Because Goldie Hawn wears the pants in that relationship and everyone knows it.