Friends

[Addo_Of_Nex]

I don't actively seek out friendship. I have a small group of friends (a couple non-metal) that fill the biological necessity for human interaction which keeps me from going insane.

I'm friendly and people tend to like me, but nothing ever progresses past the "friendly acquaintance" stage because frankly I think most of them are stupid douches and the thought of having a conversation with them for longer than 10 minutes makes suicide seem lovely. For this reason, getting out of high school was awesome because I had almost reached the limit of being friendly with all of the annoying and creepy Christian rich kids that tried to be my buddy.

I'm not entirely introverted, it's just that I tend to get irritated over the smallest things about a person, which complicates things because I'm far from perfect as well. However, sitting around and simply talking with people whom I enjoy the company of is probably my favorite activity around. It doesn't really matter what the topic of discussion is; the more genuine and interesting the person, the better.

 

[damnromulans]

Right. Man I was giggling about this thread with a friend a couple days ago and he came up with this theory that people's responses would be one of these...

A) I am 100% Aspergers and I'm basically Chris-Chan, why don't people love me?!?!?!?
B) I COULD have tons of friends but I just hate people because they are all stupid and make me want to kill myself
C) I'm a bold loner with no actual need for friendship
D) I'm chill and I have friends

Totally called that one.

 

[Addo_Of_Nex]

Not entirely shocking considering the fact that you're on a metal forum.

 

[Saparmurat_Niyazov]

Nor is it surprising, considering that your friend described 4 generally common personality types.

 

[Satanstoenail]

I have a core group of friends that I hang out with, party with, go to dinner with etc, and I have an outer core group of friends which consists mainly of old friends that I only see every now and then and other friends that have fallen out with one of the people in the inner core group.

 

[damnromulans]

I know, and that is a big reason why I enjoy being on here.

 

[Cythraul]

I don't usually go out and try to make friends. I just end up with friends somehow. Don't really have a regular way of doing it. I probably make less friends than most people because I'm rather introverted, but I don't care to have tons of friends/acquaintances anyway. I have a few friends that I've known since elementary school and we have a kind of bond that people outside of the friendship don't really understand I guess. It's awesome to have friends like that. In the past 8 years or so the only real new friends I've made have been metal people, but a lot of those have fallen by the wayside. I don't really care. I sit in my room and brood a lot while listening to bm. Who needs friends?

 

[arg]

i dont have many friends. the few "friends" i see these days, im not very close with, but they are ok for just hanging out. my real friends, the ones with whom i can be my "true" "total" self with, are those i had in high school. im in another country now though.

 

[Belligerent]

I'm looking forward to going to Chicago in September though; time to meet some new people (that includes you Chris )!!

don't forget to hit me up when you get out here.

 

[cookiecutter]

I don't actively seek out friendship. I have a small group of friends (a couple non-metal) that fill the biological necessity for human interaction which keeps me from going insane.

I'm friendly and people tend to like me, but nothing ever progresses past the "friendly acquaintance" stage because frankly I think most of them are stupid douches and the thought of having a conversation with them for longer than 10 minutes makes suicide seem lovely. For this reason, getting out of high school was awesome because I had almost reached the limit of being friendly with all of the annoying and creepy Christian rich kids that tried to be my buddy.

I'm not entirely introverted, it's just that I tend to get irritated over the smallest things about a person, which complicates things because I'm far from perfect as well. However, sitting around and simply talking with people whom I enjoy the company of is probably my favorite activity around. It doesn't really matter what the topic of discussion is; the more genuine and interesting the person, the better.

You are in college but not living on campus right? I think that's what you told me. Anyway, if it's every financially viable, live on campus for a while. You will make a ton of friends and meet a ton of girls. Also if you're in your second or third year getting freshman girls is easier. I only lived one year on campus but I made nearly all my close friends there.

 

[Addo_Of_Nex]

I'm beginning my first semester of college this fall. I don't know about living on campus, but I'll likely participate in a couple of extracurricular activities that will make me some friends.

I think my main problem is lack of drive to initiate anything because I don't want to chance wasting my time or the other person's time. I've never really given it much thought because I have a group of friends I'm around a lot and being alone for extended periods of time never bothers me that much. The opposite sex is an entirely other matter because I'm a pussy, not that much of a catch, and I despise most of the ass-kissing nonsense that comes with being in a relationship.

 

[damnromulans]

It's true. Being around people all the time like that leads to inevitable bonding, unless you are a hikikkomori and never leave your room.

edit: Totally understood about the lack of drive/satisfaction with friend group thing, nothing wrong with being happy as is

 

[Mountains_of_Mars]

I mostly hang out with the same small group of people. It is just a coincidence that they almost all listen to metal. I am really social and like meeting new people, but most of the people I meet I don't really like for various reasons. One thing I like about my group of friends that I have now is that we dont have to be doing something in order to be having fun. Most of what my friends and I do is just sit in a basement is listen to metal, watch some TV or just joke around. There have been times where my friend and I have sat in his room for probably 8 hours and the most exciting thing we did was order pizza, but it still was fun doing that. Just spending time together is more important that trying to do stuff or go somewhere.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Most of what my friends and I do is just sit in a basement is listen to metal, watch some TV or just joke around. There have been times where my friend and I have sat in his room for probably 8 hours and the most exciting thing we did was order pizza, but it still was fun doing that.

That sounds boring as fuck, but to each their own.

 

[Belligerent]

Friends of mine that i used to hang out with in high school and earlier i don't talk to much anymore. Most of them moved to the city and like going to bars/clubs and spending $7 on a Bud Light which i prefer not to. Mainly the interests we shared back then are not there anymore.

Good majority of the people i hang out with now are heavily into music (mainly metal) and are very open minded just like myself. I would say the most fun that we have is just hanging out in my garage jamming metal and old prog until all hours of the night, drinking a TON of different beers. The majority of my summer will consist of this and i'm ok with that.

 

[Chanakya]

youre alll mi frends!

 

[Episteme]

Drunk Ananth is drunk.

 

[Saparmurat_Niyazov]

Drunk Ananth is drunk.

 

[Srontgorrth]

 

[Doomguy]

I have a close circle of friends (about 4-5 people) and I tend to 'mingle' with a few other people, but in terms of hanging out and stuff I stick to the circle. I actually wear some of my band shirts less when I go to parties etc. as a result of friendships; one time I was going over to speak to this girl who I sorta have a crush on at a new years party. She took one glance at my General Surgery shirt and slowly backed away.