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[Covet Chaos]

You wait for a bus and 2 come along at the same time. That's usually the case.

I'm doing a lot of thinking about this sorta stuff at the moment. It's not all about getting laid. I've had enough of shagging around cos it doesn't mean anything at all. I'm after somebody I can settle with n have a good time with. I may pretty much be there at the moment. I might be able to tell after next week is over.

Life is good. It always is. I've been through a lot... like rock n roll style a lot. And I've been talking to people who've been telling me to write it all down. Especially a story about Groan that we kept well hidden... It might be okay to tell now. But no matter what sort of low your life hits, it's never bad. Because everybody is awesome and you can pick yourself up and act like it Now let's party!

 

[Caveman Ninja]

I really actually do think I'm just a loser... I'm a nice guy, and I'm not thick, I know that, but I'm a loser. You know there are people in life who just breeze through everything with this overwhelming confidence and always get what they want, can talk to any woman, have a string of gorgeous girlfriends and get decent jobs and everything just falls into place for them... those guys are winners. I am forever destined to be a loser. I'm the guy who girls all want to be friends with but none of them want to fuck. I'm painfully shy so no good at chatting girls up in pubs and I'm no bloody use for anything when I'm drunk anyway (which happens after 2 pints). I'm savagely lonely! But it's not just that, it's everything! I was the guy who tried hard to get good exam results and got two great degrees because they said it'd help my career prospects and now can't even get a job interview. I'm the guy who collects stuff like some kind of maniac anorak. I'm a gigantic geek and a massive fucking loser!! The only time I don't feel like a loser is when I'm on-stage, and that happens for 90 minutes a month... that isn't enough of my month not to feel like a fucking loser. You know that saying "nice guys finish last"? It's true. Totally fucking true. Dudes, I'm going to recommend you all become assholes because you'll have a whole lot more fun. I'm nearly thirty and I have very little fun at all...

I'm actually half considering going to the doctor to see if I'm clinically depressed...

 

[Keenan]

Wow. You sound just like me dude. Like, exactly. Those are almost the exact same thoughts that I was going to post.... Except for the being thirty part.



Don't worry too much about it man, our time will come.
*massive bro-hug*

 

[Chipmonkcheeks]

First things first being a geek is a loose sense isn't a bad thing.
Second you saying about it being wierd that you collect things. Personally I would just call that being obsessive over something, and we all do it. Whether its some physical and easily quantifiable like collecting football shirts, or its something mental, for example I might say I'm a bit addicted to Devin Townsend (see what I did there) I spent tons of money to meet him, I love all his albums and frankly I will buy anything he puts out. Its the same thought process and manner of acquiring things, just in different ways.

I also think being a loser is only relative and what you define it as. I am really jealous you feel like that on stage, the one time i've played on a stage I was static and terrified, I was even too nervous to say hi to you the 2-3 times i've seen you walking around and that makes me feel like a loser, when I can't even start a sentence because I have a stutter makes me feel like a loser. However it doesn't make me a loser to other people (at least not everone)
I mean fuck man, everyones a loser in their own eyes only because you know all your own pitfalls, all the stuff you've done, do and want to do. There are loads of things you know about yourself that no one else knows.

From that statement I don't think there are winners, because that would be a contradiction, everyone fucks up, and not having sex isnt a reason to beat yourself up. Something will come along and make you feel better, Im sure of it, because it always does for me even if it's something so small as going to sleep and waking up again.

To conclude, confident people are cunts. But there is nothing better when you've gone to sleep, woken up and you know that today is your day to be that confident dick.

I would love to meet all of you, meeting new people is fucking hard for me, like i said its hard to talk people I don't really know. So yeh, your all awesome in someones eyes, if not your own.



Sorry if any of that was incomprehensible ^^

 

[D.Ingram]

I'm a total geek, I rarely venture out of the house unless it's for rehearsal, job hunting or drinking myself into oblivion and I don't face any problems like that.

The talking to women thing literally just requires no underlying intentions whatsoever. Start off chatting as you would anyone else and it comes naturally.

 

[Caveman Ninja]

Not to me, it doesn't. It starts with chatting normally, ends with chatting normally and that's the end of that.

 

[D.Ingram]

Well you have to chat more than once mate

I guess the social circle has an impact though. Come to Sheffield, dammit!

 

[metallicdistort]

First things first being a geek is a loose sense isn't a bad thing.
Second you saying about it being wierd that you collect things. Personally I would just call that being obsessive over something, and we all do it. Whether its some physical and easily quantifiable like collecting football shirts, or its something mental, for example I might say I'm a bit addicted to Devin Townsend (see what I did there) I spent tons of money to meet him, I love all his albums and frankly I will buy anything he puts out. Its the same thought process and manner of acquiring things, just in different ways.

I also think being a loser is only relative and what you define it as. I am really jealous you feel like that on stage, the one time i've played on a stage I was static and terrified, I was even too nervous to say hi to you the 2-3 times i've seen you walking around and that makes me feel like a loser, when I can't even start a sentence because I have a stutter makes me feel like a loser. However it doesn't make me a loser to other people (at least not everone)
I mean fuck man, everyones a loser in their own eyes only because you know all your own pitfalls, all the stuff you've done, do and want to do. There are loads of things you know about yourself that no one else knows.

From that statement I don't think there are winners, because that would be a contradiction, everyone fucks up, and not having sex isnt a reason to beat yourself up. Something will come along and make you feel better, Im sure of it, because it always does for me even if it's something so small as going to sleep and waking up again.

To conclude, confident people are cunts. But there is nothing better when you've gone to sleep, woken up and you know that today is your day to be that confident dick.

I would love to meet all of you, meeting new people is fucking hard for me, like i said its hard to talk people I don't really know. So yeh, your all awesome in someones eyes, if not your own.



Sorry if any of that was incomprehensible ^^

So many truths.

(My original content)

I'm shit with new people, I have poor social skills, and I'm just socially awkward in general, but the people I've met off of here (Charlie and Dave) have both been total bros, and although it was hard for me to talk with them at first, I'm glad I did.

But 11 months isn't that long without sex, I've gone over a year without it, and I'm in university. But I've never really been bothered by it.

 

[Covet Chaos]

It's easy to talk to new people... just go for it because what's the worst that could happen?

 

[D.Ingram]

Indeed

 

[metallicdistort]

It's easy to talk to new people... just go for it because what's the worst that could happen?

I know it's easy in theory, but I've always been shy and had problems with self-esteem, especially with the way I speak. I hate speaking, especially loud enough for other people to hear. So most conversations I have with new people are awkward, and therefore people don't speak to me much. I don't like the idea of people judging the way I come across, even though that really shouldn't bother me. I dunno.

And I guess I'm not really that into socialising in real life either.

 

[Chipmonkcheeks]

It's easy to talk to new people... just go for it because what's the worst that could happen?

Choking on words, it sounds silly but it happens. It terrified me when I was young and then it just went away. Its starting to happen again though and im trying to figure out how to get over it.


Also nice to see you on here Si ^^

 

[D.Ingram]

Best way is to not give a fuck what people think of you, within reason. Works for me, I've had self-esteem issues all my life and still do.

 

[metallicdistort]

Best way is to not give a fuck what people think of you, within reason. Works for me, I've had self-esteem issues all my life and still do.

I try that, most of the time it doesn't work, depends on the mood I'm in. Occasionally I feel really bold and don't give a fuck what people think, but most of the time I'm imprisoned by a lack of confidence and don't really feel like being bold.

 

[D.Ingram]

Hahaha, it's just a matter of trying mate. I have no inhibitions mot of the time, I'll happily chat to nayone provided they don't act like a cunt - alcohol helps, admittedly. Really, it's just perseverence.

 

[Caveman Ninja]

Occasionally I feel really bold and don't give a fuck what people think, but most of the time I'm imprisoned by a lack of confidence and don't really feel like being bold.

I hear that, bro!

 

[D.Ingram]

Not to sound crude, brash or insensitive because you know I love you guys, but... have you tried actually doing something about it?

 

[metallicdistort]

Hahaha, it's just a matter of trying mate. I have no inhibitions mot of the time, I'll happily chat to nayone provided they don't act like a cunt - alcohol helps, admittedly. Really, it's just perseverence.

Yeah alcohol and other drugs help, sometimes I feel like just living my life on drugs, I'll be happier that way up to a point.

I don't really like moaning about my problems, because they are MY problems, and I'm the only one that can do anything about it. All of the problems mentioned in this thread are our own problems, and it's up to us to do something about it. Podgie has shown us how we can take control of our lives and improve things, and I find that inspiring. it's just most of the time I'm too apathetic to change anything, so it's my own fault, and I don't want any sympathy. Though I am going to try to improve myself.

 

[Caveman Ninja]

Not to sound crude, brash or insensitive because you know I love you guys, but... have you tried actually doing something about it?

Aye! I go out fairly frequently, and I actually meet a lot of new people because some of my friends are foreign students who are deperate to introduce me to loads more foreign students... and I normally get along fine with people, if I am in the right mood to make an effort...

But having said all that, in a lot of social situations I just feel like the most awkward sod in the entire world.

 

[D.Ingram]

You're not getting drunk enough.