The depression thread

It’s actually hard to have that when you get home so tired all you want to do is veg out, but then too much vegging out makes you crazy.
Ever get stressed out about relaxing? Like, you've got some time off coming up that you really need to just chill and recharge but all the while leading up to it you start worrying that something will go drastically wrong during your downtime (because it usually does) and you'll end up just as stressed as you were before the time off, therefore constantly feeling like you need more recharge time to make up for the disaster that was supposed to be your initial relax time. So it's on and on and on, it's Heaven and Hell...
 
Well generally you're not depressed for no reason. You're depressed for a reason that you either don't know, or don't want to find.
Yeah fair enough. I just find it crazy that people like Chester Bennington and Paul Hester kill themselves when they've achieved so much and have families. Not being able to draw on the fact that you've been so successful and brought children into this world that you need to be there for, knowing the impact it will have on them. It's an amount of suffering that's totally beyond comprehension.
 
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Yeah fair enough. I just find it crazy that people like Chester Bennington and Paul Hester kill themselves when they've achieved so much and have families. Not being able to draw on the fact that you've been so successful and brought children into this world that you need to be there for, knowing the impact it will have on them. It's an amount of suffering that's totally beyond comprehension.

Everyone's different, different triggers, different points where they finally break. Without ever knowing the full story it's hard to figure out what anyone is going through. Take the highly publicised musician out of the equation and replace it with the father, businessman who's built his business up over 20 years to be successful but the stresses of work get too much for him. Take the farmer who has to come to the realisation that after four generations he's going to be the one to loose the family farm. For those people and even the successful muso it could quiet easily have been that they couldn't draw on their successes because their failures were too strong in their minds.
 
Everyone's different, different triggers, different points where they finally break. Without ever knowing the full story it's hard to figure out what anyone is going through. Take the highly publicised musician out of the equation and replace it with the father, businessman who's built his business up over 20 years to be successful but the stresses of work get too much for him. Take the farmer who has to come to the realisation that after four generations he's going to be the one to loose the family farm. For those people and even the successful muso it could quiet easily have been that they couldn't draw on their successes because their failures were too strong in their minds.
Sure, but to leave your children is the part that really gets me. I think if you have kids, you forfeit the right to do something as selfish as kill yourself. No matter how much you're suffering, ultimately you're a parent and your kids need you.
 
I agree with @CiG It's too rational for some to think. Hopefully more people do think like that, hopefully more can make the connection with success, kids, or something happy but it's not easy for some people to do.
 
Even more I think familial responsibilities is what keeps many suicidal people from ending their lives. But all that suppressing and bottling-up of that kind of mental health problem does occasionally explode.
 
For sure.
And the worst part about suppressing shit for many is that it just keeps building up. Something small today, something else tomorrow, suddenly there is a whole heap of small things suppressed that makes for one big weight.
 
As a clinician in training, the problem with the human brain is it's pre-wired to overly focus on the negative. Throw poor childhood experiences on it and the problem multiplies dramatically. The entertainment industry is a vicious fishbowl, compounding problems. Depression is both common and treatable, but it mostly requires treatment, sometimes with multiple modalities, same as any more "physical" sickness.
 
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As a clinician in training, the problem with the human brain is it's pre-wired to overly focus on the negative. Throw poor childhood experiences on it and the problem multiplies dramatically. The entertainment industry is a vicious fishbowl, compounding problems. Depression is both common and treatable, but it mostly requires treatment, sometimes with multiple modalities, same as any more "physical" sickness.
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The ability to turn a positive into a negative can also be a problem.
 
Yeah, often times for me I understand that I have positives in my life, but the negatives win the war overall in my head. I can't really tell whether I'm just being a realist and my life sucks or if the chemical imbalance is real. The positives never make me happy either. In fact, I can't remember the last time I actually was happy for longer than a brief moment or two.
 
Tbh Ive let my depression and cynicism come in the way of my irl friendships and it kind of sucks. Usually just too depressed to hang out with any of them, so I haven't hung out with my best friend in over three weeks. I feel bad but eh. I also am not terribly fond of her boyfriend, he's kind of become a dick over the last while so whatever so thats contributed to it too.
 
The funny part about that is, whenever I can get myself out to be around people, I feel better. It's just so hard to get over the hurdle to do it.
 
I agree it's getting over that hurdle that is often hard. I spent too long making excuses not to do things, one excuse after another, after another and then eventually it got to a point where I no longer needed the excuse because it just happened and it became the norm to do nothing.