The things that make you angry thread

[dreaming neon darkspot]

I still think you're making a big mistake by not reporting the bullshit you're going through. Not only are you hurting yourself, but you're leaving the workplace in the same state so this bullshit can happen to another girl. See the legal term is called a poisoned workplace, which basically is a human right's violation (at least in Canada that is what it is). You can't be expected to earn a living when you have co-workers belittling you, making you sick, upset, anxious, losing sleep, etc... whatever the case may be. Really, please dig around for the courage to report that shit, you could take them to court and settle for some money too.

i really don't have concrete proof of anything. like i've said, it's all pretty much "i heard this person saying they heard it from this person"

 

[Shpongled]

they haven't been apathetic or anything. my dept supervisors have told me that they will do anything they can, talk to whoever they need to to try getting this taken care of, but i just don't have concrete proof of who this is originating from or who's saying what, it's pretty much all just gossip and i don't wanna point any fingers and get anyone in trouble for no reason. and i also don't wanna feed this fucking monster by saying "i heard from this person that this person is saying this stuff" when it could all be lies.

like i said, i just don't wanna do anything too rash or impulsive.

I don't think it matters who started it. What matters is who believes it. You know it isn't true, this Mark dude knows it isn't true, so to me, that's the end of it. The problem is that you're letting it get to you. Try to not worry about it and ignore the people you think are behind it if you can. Once they see it's not bothering you, it's only a matter of time before it fades away into oblivion because it's not getting the reactions they wanted anymore.

Of course, the easiest solution would be to quit and walk out with your middle finger high in the air. Just make sure to tell the people you like that the finger's not for them before you leave

 

[dreaming neon darkspot]

Honestly, if these people get reprimanded by their supervisors, they're probably just going to get angry and talk even more shit. Wastes of life tend to behave that way.

exactly.

i'm just not gonna feed the monster. if anything legitimate happens to me, people saying stuff to/around me, then i'll do something about it.

 

[Undefined]

i really don't have concrete proof of anything. like i've said, it's all pretty much "i heard this person saying they heard it from this person"

Well then you should keep this advice in mind:

The harassed employee, lawyers say, needs to keep a journal of events: time, place, quotes, witnesses. Is the problem an occasional bad day or a consistent pattern of abuse? The worker should also save any pertinent letters and e-mails, preferably making hard copies and storing the paper trail at home.

Paper trail might not apply to you but just keep a journal like it suggests.

 

[dreaming neon darkspot]

I don't think it matters who started it. What matters is who believes it. You know it isn't true, this Mark dude knows it isn't true, so to me, that's the end of it. The problem is that you're letting it get to you. Try to not worry about it and ignore the people you think are behind it if you can. Once they see it's not bothering you, it's only a matter of time before it fades away into oblivion because it's not getting the reactions they wanted anymore.

Of course, the easiest solution would be to quit and walk out with your middle finger high in the air. Just make sure to tell the people you like that the finger's not for them before you leave

yeah, i mean, the close friends of mine who have come to me about this or who i've told haven't even had to ask "is this true" - they go straight to "what the fuck?" ... the people there who know me know what's bullshit but they know that it's bothering me and they understand. i've tried to contain my freaking the fuck out to just around them.

i've seen several of the supposed gossipers since all this shit went down and i've (as far as i can tell) acted casually around them, and most of them have been just as casual around me - no snide comments, no shiftiness (of course i don't know these people well enough to know their capacity for lying or anything) - so hell, it could all just be shit that one person is making up and spreading around instead of a bunch. i know NOTHING for sure but i'm TRYING to act normal at work. TRYING.

 

[dreaming neon darkspot]

Well then you should keep this advice in mind:



Paper trail might not apply to you but just keep a journal like it suggests.

i think my posts on this board might work just as well

 

[WhiteBeastofWotan]

australian accents. seriously, they all sound fuckin' retarded.

 

[neal]

what? australian accents are way awesomer than east coast accents!

 

[Kvlt Wench]

Hella true.

But Norcal lingo is superior to all.

 

[Lunar Still]

No accent can defeat that of the mighty Scots.

 

[lad]

Hugs* lad

lad - damn. condolences

Thanks. I feel compelled to mention this as it's that 4th funeral I've attended of a school friend's since last February (out of 5 total deaths), and I'm a tad exasperated. Also, the religiosity of funeral services for a person or family who have no faith in organised religion leaves a sour taste and feels out-of-place.

 

[Tide In Mind Out]

Wow, Lad...that's really terrible. I know of one person I went to school with who died, in the 6 years after graduating. I didn't really know him well though. I can't imagine having 5 school peers dead even within 6 years!

*huggles*

 

[dreaming neon darkspot]

also - work was actually really good. lindsay is usually out at the garden register but it was raining all day so garden was closed and she was inside on the register next to me pretty much all day, and we went to lunch together. today went waaay fast.

i'm pissed that tomorrow will probobly suck.

and i'm pissed that we don't have chocolate cake.

 

[neal]

But Norcal lingo is superior to all.

hella

 

[Will Bozarth]

you could go to one of those new things called STORES and get cake.

 

[dreaming neon darkspot]

bleh. that would involve driving and spending money and stuff. i just kinda want it to magically appear in front of me

 

[Lord Foul]

hella

As long as none of you ever say "hecka" in my presence, we'll get along fine.

 

[Kvlt Wench]

I'm also partial to "hellof."

 

[Lord Foul]

Ow! Right in the English!

 

[neal]

As long as none of you ever say "hecka" in my presence, we'll get along fine.

yeh, fuck that noise