Not-so-good-and-old "How do you feel" thread

[Tebus]

Before I get to what you said hyena, let me just talk about a slight change of events that happened today. You see earlier this week my friend told me he thought I and a girl I work with had good chemistry over the last weekend, and encouraged me to go for her. Now I know that he has feelings for this girl as well at least slightly, but today I sent him an e-mail to ask if he has news relative to this girl, and to make a long story short, he said that since Monday (the day he sent me an e-mail encouraging me), he said that something has been developing between him and her. What it is that can develope over a 3 day span at work is beyond me, but nevertheless it happened. So naturally today has been very interesting for me emotionally. It seems everytime I get my hopes up they are shot down, so I must make a mental note to not have such lofty hopes ever again, if one can consider having a significant other as a lofty goal.

@hyena: I think this is what I was trying to say. Whenever I talk to a girl that I have feelings for, the level of self consciousness skyrockets. There are a couple of issues here. Why do I become so much more paranoid, and whats wrong with being self conscious? I become paranoid because when I have feelings for someone, those feelings arise because my mind is thinking, here's a chance to have someone. It's not obvious to me when I am talking to the person, but I know that on some level, the main reason for the feelings is sex. I could fool myself all day into thinking there's something else going on, but there's no denying the nature of humans. And because i know that that is what my mind is thinking, I feel that I am not giving the other person the respect that she deserves, and that my mind is looking at her as some kind of object. Hence, I feel very out of place and awkward, because I don't want those feelings to be on my mind. However, when I would approach her as a friend, I know that I am interested in getting to know her for her good qualities and in being a good friend towards her. In this situation, I feel that I am doing the right thing, so I have much more confidence. And the deeper aspects of myself come out much easier when I am trying to befriend someone. I'm not sure if that really explains anything, so I'm interested in your comments/opinions as well. Feel free to take this convo to the PM's if you'd rather.

 

[Destroyer Of Orden]

I'm feeling... pain today. Worked out for about two hours yestersday, as well as having an on-stop 6 hour practice session (I play drums, and that was not easy shit) So basically i'm fucked for a few days... I also went out and played another two hours today... I think i'll go hot tub tonight and work out all the damnable kinks in my body

 

[Salira]

@tebus you are a man, all they do s think about sex at least 40 % of the time, as you say it is in your nature, and if you feel that you are not giving a girl the respect she needs for that, just keeps the hand on the outside of her clothes I mean there is no reason for not giving it ago and then just not have sex before you find out if you want abit more than sex

as for your friend, what kind of a frend is that, it is like saying mmmmhh I have a really tasty cookie, but you are not getting it, couse I want it for myself...



edit: hey it was just before i went to school, didnt have my eyes open

 

[Salira]

It is shit in the morning and i will go to school now ... that kinda suck

 

[rahvin]

@tebus: in three days, nothing good ever develops. at least, unfortunately, nothing good for you. i'm sorry about such a turn of events.

@salira: same here, only change school with work.

 

[Child of Time]

Contribution to the lust-debate: Do you think it is wrong to have human feelings and reactions when everybody has them? These "instincts" are still too strong in man to be put aside or denied. And if the subject for the infatuation realizes which feelings you have for her/him, don't you think she/he thinks it's a compliment? Infatuation can often be attracting (like in Much ado about nothing by Shakespeare) and I don't think it's wrong to let the subject for this feeling know about it. It might damage a relation in short terms, but I think (and definitely hope) that's the better way if you see it in longer terms.

NF: Tired and rundown. My theory about what that lyric is about is that it tells about a morning after a night with too little sleep and too much time spent on the gym the evening before that. My body is stiff and tough and my mind is numb.

 

[Salira]

@child of time, most diffently I Turn on to know that I can make my boyfriend want me sexually, but wouldnt like a man that I have nothing with telling me that...

I think it is fine that tebus respect women enourgh to just do that, at least he can try to fgure out if the chemistry is there sexually first ...

 

[DeepInMisery]

I miss Wazoo

 

[rahvin]

I miss Wazoo

yes. and she owes me a mail since, like*, forever.


*please note colloquial, spontaneous, and rusty-upsetting use of "like".

 

[Rusty]

Never fear, I'm far too miserable at the moment to get worked up by that.

At the risk of being repetitive, this is more or less me:

"Our dying love, it prays in vain to live
And pleads for help I simply cannot give.

My devoted love takes tiny backward steps away.
Loneliness aplenty spreads before me."

And yes, this song is on repeat, at a reasonably high volume, being shoddily accompanied by my hideously cracking voice. Isn't music great??

 

[rahvin]

@rusty: is it about that cute girl at the uni, or something completely different that i'm not equipped to understand due to having being raised by polar bears?

 

[fireangel]

I miss Wazoo

and Melancholia!

no one does, honey. most of us manage to get to the end of the day without hurting themselves just because it's really not cool. let alone understanding much about the inner self. so get to bed and get to sleep, fireangel: it's what we're trying to do too.

NF: I woke up at 3pm today, because I could not find any sleep at all until early morning.

 

[Ormir]

NF: A bit dissapointed. :/

There's an American exchange student in our school called Dana, not a person I know very well, but we've talked a few times and we say "hi". I was in a cafe with her and some mutual friends this morning, and I found out it was her birthday today. She said she was thinking of going to some club tonight to celebrate, and asked if we'd like to come along. Most of the people there were 16 or 17 though, so in the end only me and a girl called Emma were able to promise ourselves to a night of clubbing.

I promised Dana though that we'd make this a proper party, and I spent the better part of an hour calling around, telling people to come to the club we decided on. Dana has lots of aquintances in Finland, and is generally well liked, but she's too shy to go around asking people to come. After getting around fifteen people to promise themselves to the party, I began to realize that the reason I've been feeling tired the whole day is because I'm coming down with a flu, and I won't make it to the party. If she has fun though, I'm happy.

Oh yeah, I got my pc back, hello everyone

 

[rahvin]

@ormir: ouch, that's too bad. can't you try and at least drop by anyway? especially if she is shy, i'm sure she'd appreciate you being there and "tutor" her around a bit before she's left to the other guests, whom maybe she doesn't know very well and haven't dedicated as much time as you to organise the whole thing.

 

[Ormir]

@rahvin: Good idea, I never really considered there was a middle ground between getting completely wasted at home and drinking more at the club or just not going. I think I'll try that out, maybe staying around for an hour and getting things rolling.

 

[Northern Lights]

hello sami

NF: after 2 glasses of wine and 1 gin & tonic, what do you expect? I'm much too sensitive with alcohol, still. Brings back memories of when I was still young and green and got drunk on one can of beer... Ah those were the days.
Anyway. It's fun shopping for clothes these days, especially trousers. It seems that, according to designers/whoever decides what the stuff is supposed to look like, women today are totally without hips, and their legs start where their backs end. Buttocks, or even an ass, is a completely unknown thing. And women's legs are apparently four times as long as the distance from their waist to their forehead.
I give up.
From here on I'll just wear togas and ponchos.

 

[Rusty]

@rusty: is it about that cute girl at the uni, or something completely different that i'm not equipped to understand due to having being raised by polar bears?

Good grief, it's not like I love her, never mind devotedly. I did however overhear her say it was her birthday on Tuesday and her boyfriend is coming down to Nottingham to spend the weekend with her since it's his birthday today as well. Still, someone that cute and intelligent would hardly be single, it's not like I had any hopes up. But anyway, stick with the polar bears.

 

[rahvin]

@rusty: hmmm. well, the bad news: she's got a boyfriend (yes, i'm sure you've noticed that by now). the good news, though: he lives far away and they don't see each other that often. this means there's plenty of room for you to operate, since - statistically - they're gonna break up at some point anyway considering how many partners people in her age bracket usually change.
chances are, you're much funnier and more interesting than her current boyfriend. don't ask me why: it's just one of those things that keep on happening all the time; in a couple, if one is really smart and good-looking, the other is usually ridiculously dumb and ugly. so make sure she knows you know about her boyfriend's existence, then ask her out anyway. she's gonna think: either this guy just wants to be friends, or he's really stupid to think i'm gonna cheat on my man, or he's really smart because he thought of such a complicated strategy. just wait until she finds out you fall squarely in category nr. three, and you're all set.

oh, and the polar bears threw me out of their pack at some point. i was too hug-happy.

 

[Rusty]

Oh I forgot to mention, she's older than I thought too. It's not important in the grander scheme of things, but she has a good five years on me and she doesn't look 25 so I thought I'd mention it here for no real reason at all. Regardless, I'll talk to her if I get the chance, but there'll be no more dodgy and over-elaborate seating-plan... uh, plans. If it doesn't happen... well it's not like I'm not used to it.

i was too hug-happy.

Are you hinting at something??

 

[hyena]

@rahvin: i am looking at the screen in utter shock after reading your words. you drove an icepick (surely stolen from the bears) through my heart, with the untruthness of it all.

@rusty: don't believe what he says. the truth about people who are already taken is: you'll fight with tooth and claw, possibly be smashed into tiny smithereens, lose all your equilibrium so when subtle strategy is needed you'll just fuck up, and finally you'll cry on rahvin's shoulder for months.

nf: like someone who sent a message with the very compromising content "are you coming out with us tonight?" (us, note: 9 people, not anything intimate) and got no reply. plus, i am annoyed - but not suffering: just pfff'ing - at the unexpected absence of current favorite drop-out option. i'll go out and get drunk.