Jenni the untold story.
I was wondering why there were quite a few page views today and I was wondering why more people than usual were looking at my blog entries, now I know. I know on my profile that I said I wasn't going to be talking about my feelings because they are private between Dill and I.
But now I feel so many things - shocked, angry, dispointed, confused but most of all I am hurt. I am hurt that you could do this to me, I know on Thursday that I said that I felt that it was in our best interest to split up and that we would both would ultimately gain from this break up, eventhough it would hurt at first. I thought I was holding you back from going to manchester and that you would achive more much faster without me. On Thursday night I didn't sleep and I sat up and thought about us and about things for hours. After thinking I really thought that we could work things out I didn't want it to end and I thought that maybe you could go to manchester whilst I finished my degree and that I could join you after I graduated. I looked on the S.S.R site and found details of open days I looked at train times and prices and thats when I rang you.
I was full of hope but you said that, 'you needed time to get your head sorted,' and 'needed time to sort things out.' 'Give me a week,' you said when we spoke on MSN that night. I was ok with that.
But I thought you said I need to get my head sorted, I thought you said you needed time and that we should have a week and talk. not that you were planning to get-off with someone you first night out as a singleton.
It's been three days, how can you get over me so fast, was our two year relationship really that meaningless?? When I told you that I had taken my pictures down because I was too upset to look at them you said that seems harsh - well at least I didn't go to a club and get off with someone. because that to me that seems harsh.
I am hurt and angry that you have done that I thought we said that you didn't want to hurt me. Because I certainly didn't want to hurt you. Ada invited me out yesterday I said no because I was getting my head sorted. Just imagine if I had have gone and you do seen that?? But then I suppose you weren't thinking of me were you.
I want to scream at you but if you don't even respect me enough not to hurt me like that then I suppose the only person it would hurt would be me.
And the fact that you told me by text/MSN so frank and emotionless hurts even more. The fact that you would kiss her in the Canal Club, the one place that I am certain to know most people there...I feel like a fool because everyone knew before me.
I am just lucky I have such good friends - I know they are a phone call away and they are willing to help me through this and give me time to work this through.
I have packed up your stuff and the Opeth tickets that I bought you are included in this, I am sure it won't take you long to rack your brains to think of someone else to take. But don't expect me to be able to see you yet though, this is going to take me a while. Maybe we can be friends in the future and one day we will know that are better off, but thats not going to be soon.
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I was feeling ok, but little things keep setting me back, stupid things like Dill changing his number one to his new girlfriend (ok I changed him in my top friends ranking but it is the fact that my top friend is now my sister and his is the new girl) Little comments that people have left on his myspace page hoping that he is really happy now he has someone new - these things don't help and they were from people I thought were friends, maybe I was wrong...maybe I am taking things to seriously, who knows!! All I know is that these little things give me a pain in my heart that really hurts. I guess I shouldn't be looking at things like this, but I am a sucker for punishment!!!
I went out with my friends for a drink and a dance yesterday night and I want to thank them for pulling me from the brink when I welled up, I want to thank them for holding my hand, touching my leg and generally showing me that they are there for me, it is the bad times that show you who cares so to those guys and generally to most people that I saw that gave me a hug or simply just listened when I regaled them with the story of how my heat has taken a severe beating. Thank you. (it was alos nice for those people who I considered 'Dill's Friends' to give me a hug and make me feel a bit better.)
Life for me at the moment is not really good but there are people that are helping and generally pushing me in the right direction. Moving on and trying to get over my regrets.
Although there are set backs and it hasn't even been a week since he got together with Amy. The truth is I am feeling a little better than I was on Sunday night! Can I be friends with Dill again?? probably, but not just yet. Can I deal with his new relationship. definately not just yet.
But, have I got a good support network of amazing friends and family to help me through? - Yes.
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