On the other hand, I have mixed feelings about the whole concept of 'experience' applied to relationships [...] I've learnt something about human behavior from my relationships, but I sort of think that it is just because you are observing how someone else is with extra attention. It's not related to the fact that you are in a relationship per se. The same facts I could have understood by looking at friends, relatives, acquaintances - I was just paying closer attention to x because x was my boyfriend.