Originally posted by xenophobe
I lived in a situation like this. It's confusing and screws up your sense of relationships in a few ways.
I don't know if it would be better to have had them seperate before I was 18, but at least you had the chance to have both of them around.
I know I felt sorry for my mother, because she was never happy in this situation.
i know what you mean. unfortunately some people experience first-hand (parental) male-female relationship woes long before they themselves are even old enough to experience such for themselves. i suppose it can somehow factor in on how they conduct themselves in relationships later on in life, but i'm no psychiatrist or anything. it just seems to make sense. i could be talking out my rear, so maybe you should consult the psycho-babble experts.
perhaps turning this to a music-related discussion might add something more useful (or maybe even therapeutic in a way)?
i've been on a TON kick lately. (i see someone else has been too.)
track #1 from SDaH: unsuccessfully coping with the natural beauty of infidelity
i should sooo write alternate 'female perspective' lyrics for this song. it should pretty easy, just substitute a counter gender insult in the appropriate places.
for instance,
lech pig prick i know you're fucking someone else
gaaaaah
although i think a male-appropriate alternate for "fucking" is in order though. hmm... dicking? sticking? i got it:
porking?
yeah, that's the one.
lech pig prick i know you're porking someone else. ...
i think i could handle the rhythm guitar parts after i learned 'em, too.
where there's a womb there's a way could stay static.
and these...
done it before / time after time / refused to learn your lesson / gave til it hurt / thought it was right / only fools make mistakes twice
true for any gender really.
i kid, yes. but i don't hate the male gender, despite some of their...err...shall we say, shortcomings?
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It's a sad thing, but it's just a part of life... Close to three years ago I found my father shortly after he passed. Now my mother is in failing health, so I know how you feel. I had to take care of funeral arraingements and such. Not a fun thing. I'm the only child, and most of our relatives are on the east coast or abroad. I had to deal with this all myself and will have to some time again in the future.
i know, Everything Dies, right? oh man, handling stuff like that alone must be harder than ever.
I want to be cremated, and have my remains put into keychains, and given to my closest friends... with the remaining remains spread out in the Pacific.
that's an interesting take. thanks for sharing!